tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post356253899980557664..comments2023-09-24T11:26:16.606-04:00Comments on The Middle Ages: Into The Continuum: Friendships Past, Present ... and FutureDeb and Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04444390852070865517noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-86897466667482562032012-07-15T12:35:34.222-04:002012-07-15T12:35:34.222-04:00oh... that really was good!oh... that really was good!Shalakahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00782094985343645473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-26623237561261830182012-07-15T10:37:57.744-04:002012-07-15T10:37:57.744-04:00Same here :)
See...you're never alone in the i...Same here :)<br />See...you're never alone in the internet. :)Beckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11056971028004881629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-29582115093506237922012-07-15T05:12:24.220-04:002012-07-15T05:12:24.220-04:00Yes! Speaking as someone with a chronic illness, I...Yes! Speaking as someone with a chronic illness, I can absolutely relate to this. I'm forced to spend most of my time at home, more often than not alone, and would honestly be lost without the internet.Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324771087522337757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-28641576432771479002012-07-14T21:36:00.274-04:002012-07-14T21:36:00.274-04:00Yes, she is a great friend!Yes, she is a great friend!Stephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-47087415521935924212012-07-14T18:05:51.007-04:002012-07-14T18:05:51.007-04:00Oh god, ain't that the truth!Oh god, ain't that the truth!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-23046764353201163042012-07-14T18:05:30.359-04:002012-07-14T18:05:30.359-04:00Yes, I really do feel the truth of Dawn's whol...Yes, I really do feel the truth of Dawn's whole point and it's one of the things that makes me love the 'net. We are not alone.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-64586193638035107622012-07-14T16:53:58.023-04:002012-07-14T16:53:58.023-04:00Dawn I loved this statement from you-
The 'net...Dawn I loved this statement from you-<br />The 'net might not be helping us get out of the house any time soon, but we're less alone inside than we used to be.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-89618348730863423042012-07-14T16:51:27.299-04:002012-07-14T16:51:27.299-04:00Yeah that's an interesting concept and brings ...Yeah that's an interesting concept and brings up another question. Is the internet impeding their ability to make decisions on their own?Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-64567659094570788002012-07-14T16:47:43.700-04:002012-07-14T16:47:43.700-04:00Hi all, Just getting to the part late I'm afra...Hi all, Just getting to the part late I'm afraid. I am loving all the comments and real insights and imaginings! Oh for a universal language! Wouldn't that be swell.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-45072314947859243312012-07-14T09:11:05.628-04:002012-07-14T09:11:05.628-04:00Ah...thank you Barbara! :D You are amazing, too!
...Ah...thank you Barbara! :D You are amazing, too!<br /><br />The thing is...I don't know if we weren't compatible...or if somebody changed. It just fell apart without a real reason at all...but I'm too tired to care about that anymore.<br /><br />Oh and Steph: I hate that, when people suddenly change and don't tell you why or what happened. It makes me so angry and sad.<br /><br />And your Mexican friend is an awesome friend! =)Beckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11056971028004881629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-31186757218574547572012-07-14T08:37:19.206-04:002012-07-14T08:37:19.206-04:00a quick thought . just remember technology is only...a quick thought . just remember technology is only as good as the people putting information into it .Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12089552255135338948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-17412052351555268052012-07-14T03:37:15.118-04:002012-07-14T03:37:15.118-04:00I wish kids could know not to say such things to t...I wish kids could know not to say such things to their friends NOW, because what they say could stay with the friend for years after.Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-79322942790640016472012-07-14T02:24:33.961-04:002012-07-14T02:24:33.961-04:00Oh I remember those type of friends. One once told...Oh I remember those type of friends. One once told me that she can play with me outside the school, but at school she can't because the rest will start picking on her and she doesn't want that. I have a vague memory that I told her that I want all or nothing, that friends in hidden are not what I need.Kaskuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09551403219738694648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-28322991856266621402012-07-14T02:19:27.439-04:002012-07-14T02:19:27.439-04:00That is so good that you do that Dawn! I am sure s...That is so good that you do that Dawn! I am sure she will learn the difference between an online friend and a friend who is online.Kaskuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09551403219738694648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-59548894717714071362012-07-14T02:16:31.136-04:002012-07-14T02:16:31.136-04:00I agree Dawn, and then add the fact that most onli...I agree Dawn, and then add the fact that most online users don't even have english as their first language, so when we are truely one world, the language will be a really big mix.Kaskuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09551403219738694648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-74416580239223728842012-07-13T23:09:33.819-04:002012-07-13T23:09:33.819-04:00I think Facebook is the worst invention ever for t...I think Facebook is the worst invention ever for the mindset of teens from jr high through senior year. That whole idea of "relationships" just throws them ALL off. I go into my daughter's FB account, and what's going on sometimes is just unbelievable. Couples *snort* break up because one of them friended someone the other one doesn't like. Or said hi. Hell, a typo can destroy a 'relationship' in that age group. <br /><br />THAT'S where I get the chance to talk to my daughter about what a relationship really is. What a friendship really is. Hell, what a FRIEND really is. It isn't who types to you the most. It's who is still there when you turn the computer off. (The mental illness thing throws me off at times, because what I'm teaching her isn't always what I believe myself, but I know it's right. Most of my friendships are on-line, though I have met many of them in person at least once. I want to nurture her comfort with the real world. She's such a social kid.)Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-39741706663275553002012-07-13T22:51:23.073-04:002012-07-13T22:51:23.073-04:00It's alrdy Bcoming sumting that doesn't re...It's alrdy Bcoming sumting that doesn't resemble "correct" spelling and grammar. I correct my daughter's spelling or word usage on-line because it's embarrassing knowing some of my friends can see how poor it is. Then I look her Facebook wall, and all the posts from her friends are written just as poorly. 140 character-limits are going to be the death of the written language as we know it.Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-76130289685874948312012-07-13T22:38:23.128-04:002012-07-13T22:38:23.128-04:00I think the invention of the internet led to the d...I think the invention of the internet led to the discovery of a whole lot of people we didn't otherwise know existed. Agoraphobes, germaphobes, depressed folks... <br />As I became more and more depressed during my high school years, my social circle diminished to NOTHING, and I was in my room all the time when I was home. And I was home a LOT, 'cause I never went out anymore, 'cause there wasn't anyone to go out with anymore.<br />(I had a "friend" in high school who told me she'd ask "Mary" if she wanted to go to the movies. If Mary said no, she'd ask "Lisa." She told me I was fourth on the list. I no longer wonder why I gave up on friendship as a concept.)<br />(I hope my memory is just looking at the wrong end of a telescope, where my world looks a lot more 'focused,' and that reality was a LITTLE better. That's what this illness does to you. ALL BAD ALL THE TIME.)<br /><br />When you give up on the outside world, the electronic world is a saving grace. Reading other people talking about the same feelings I have shows me I'm NOT alone. It's becomes a social network without which I would KNOW I am alone. <br /><br />Does this remind anyone else of the "Breakfast Club?" <br />"Demented and sad, but social."<br /><br />The 'net might not be helping us get out of the house any time soon, but we're less alone inside than we used to be.<br /><br />Okay, that's as far as I'm willing to go on a Friday night.Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-21102896216258898142012-07-13T17:36:04.682-04:002012-07-13T17:36:04.682-04:00Yeah, numbers and short forms will certainly prosp...Yeah, numbers and short forms will certainly prosper in our written language!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-34004226454899131722012-07-13T17:34:46.406-04:002012-07-13T17:34:46.406-04:00"It is rare to find one person who works for ..."It is rare to find one person who works for all your needs." So so so true. I also believe that the community engagement that's being offered on the internet can also be a stepping stone to gaining confidence in the real world. So many people are so shy and fear rejection so much that real life engagement can always be difficult. But I do hear you: "hiding behind a screen" can be a vicious circle too...Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-22436966301553127602012-07-13T17:31:33.305-04:002012-07-13T17:31:33.305-04:00LOVE the library! It's so great you use it. An...LOVE the library! It's so great you use it. And hugging in real life -- sooo good. Happy 13th to you too!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-51201105622710778442012-07-13T17:30:43.832-04:002012-07-13T17:30:43.832-04:00You might be surprised to know that even though I&...You might be surprised to know that even though I've always been outgoing and am in an outgoing field of work, I harboured this same fear before we attempted the blog. I was sooooo surprised that that fear went away the more I engaged here. Obviously, we're pretty open to "rejection", but putting ourselves out there like this has actually taught me that most people want to "accept", even imperfectly. Good luck!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-55436871236821752492012-07-13T16:40:06.747-04:002012-07-13T16:40:06.747-04:00Friends serve different purposes and we are blesse...Friends serve different purposes and we are blessed if we have one that does it all. I have had friends for 40+ years who I can talk to about anything (I wear my heart on my mouth and I share). I have no filters usually either. I think as you age (I am 63) you realize that some friends have never asked you a single question about yourself and you realize they are a friend in a different way and you either accept it or reject it depending on your needs. Some of my friend are more superficial and others deeper. Some share amazingly well and other just want to be quiet and listen. Some offer advice and other never give an opinion. I think all friendships can work for you as you need certain things on different days and in different situations. Some friends of mine go to movies with me and try new restaurants. Others share their most intimate details and others just listen if you want to talk. It is rare to find one person who works for all your needs. I love my friends but I see each one for their uniqueness and ability to share what needs to be shared and also keep quiet when it is their turn to listen. I think one must be vulnerable to be able to be a good or great friend and some people just can't handle that so they remain tucked in their own world and are on the internet to prevent going out and actually interacting with someone in real time and in person. That saddens me. You can hide behind a screen but I don't think that is a beneficial quality of the internet and technology. Just my thoughts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-60095522194303097242012-07-13T15:52:27.334-04:002012-07-13T15:52:27.334-04:00Becki, I have gone through the same thing with a f...Becki, I have gone through the same thing with a friend. We were the best of friends until we were about 13, then she changed into someone that I did not understand, someone that was not good for me to be around. And I changed too, but I changed in a more positive way. She began to worry more about her looks and social standing in school and I worried, well, about school, classes, that sort of thing. That year I met someone else that I became fast friends with and unfortunately, when we were 17 or 18, she did the same thing mmy other friend did. We came back from a school break and she would no longer speak to me. We didn't fight or anything, but I just wasn't good enough to be her friend anymore, which hurt for about a minute, then I laughed it off. <br />I have one friend that I have known since she moved here from Mexico when she was 9 or 10. We have been friends for over 10 years. We went long periods of time without seeing each other, but we can always find something to talk about when we do see each other. She is there for me when I need her and I'm there for her.Stephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-77697017212994042742012-07-13T15:42:28.034-04:002012-07-13T15:42:28.034-04:00To me, nothing can or ever will replace face-to-fa...To me, nothing can or ever will replace face-to-face moments with friends. I am thankful for technology, though, because without it, I would not have all of you in my life! I think that people have to learn to balance it all, otherwise we will become a group of people that don't know how to act in real, face-to-face situations. I try to limit myself on the amount of time I spend using technology so that I don't come to depend on it so much. I try not to use it for research, and instead I use this really cool thing called a library! :)<br />I have never skyped or used facebook or myspace, but I can understand to benefits of using them. I just prefer to be able to actually hug my friends rather than just typing it.<br />Happy Friday the 13th!!Stephnoreply@blogger.com