tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post4397149937861313686..comments2023-09-24T11:26:16.606-04:00Comments on The Middle Ages: Mother In LawDeb and Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04444390852070865517noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-48970364420314639652011-10-04T16:25:05.175-04:002011-10-04T16:25:05.175-04:00Lisa, you've got me to thinking about the fact...Lisa, you've got me to thinking about the fact that neither of my ex's (??) had their dad in their life once they hit their teens. I wonder what might be different about each of them. I do know that my first ex (J) is a fantastic dad and it's directly due to the (unimpressive) parenting job his father did. J is disgusted with his father's behaviour over the years. J is also the oldest of 3 and I imagine he's a little more responsible because of that, too.<br /><br />Ex #2, T, is the youngest of three boys, and is a mama's boy through and through. His first wife was a couple of years older than his mother, so you can do the psychological math if you wish. I wish I knew more about his dad, because T's thing is not accepting blame for ANYTHING, and acknowledging NOTHING. He did stick with me during all the bi-polar hospitalizations and treatments, but he was expecting that once I was "fixed," everything would be all right. <br />I like this song lyric. "I know that I've got issues, but you're pretty messed up, too." If he had just admitted it, maybe we would have done better. I don't know. <br />I'm just glad I don't have to worry about what kind of mother-in-law I'll make for several more years. <br /><br />Deb, they say "HONK! HONK!" and said you'd understand. :)Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-82278073067338498082011-10-04T09:29:33.081-04:002011-10-04T09:29:33.081-04:00Oh and Dawn, tell them to fly safe and we'll s...Oh and Dawn, tell them to fly safe and we'll see them in the spring! xo Love what you said!<br />Kelly what a pretty parcel of good news! Wow. So happy for you. <br />Lisa not a downer at all. You make a good point. I understand so many things about my husband having known his father. It is hugely helpful.<br />Molly how beautiful. You just gave her the nicest tribute. And yes, now the pressure is on me. Our son has been with the same girl for over three years and I love her to bits. If she ever does something I don't like, I will keep my mouth shut. I hope she does the same. Hard, lovely work I'm guessing.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-64627122733922509862011-10-04T09:23:48.969-04:002011-10-04T09:23:48.969-04:00Dawn I love when you said "I'd call her f...Dawn I love when you said "I'd call her for a ride if my car broke down". You are right. Better than nothing. And that does define the relationship beautifully. Believe it or not, my Mom did not like Colin at all at the beginning. Did not think he was good enough for me. She also did not like my first husband at all. Again with the not good enough. It took years for her to warm up to Colin and now she LOVES him. Too bad about Joyce though and what you are missing but in the end it's great if they are wonderful grandmothers and it sounds like you have that.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-18789128244277014072011-10-04T09:17:09.195-04:002011-10-04T09:17:09.195-04:00Wow Karen what a tale. It sounds like something ou...Wow Karen what a tale. It sounds like something out of a movie. That woman needs help! What a cow. As for the sculpture, I put it on the curb one day and some lucky passerby snapped it up for their mantle.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-84037704265230770702011-10-03T22:56:17.990-04:002011-10-03T22:56:17.990-04:00Coming in kind of late here, but I just had to say...Coming in kind of late here, but I just had to say this is such a wonderful story, Deb. So neat to have such a wonderful relationship. I have to say, those Glasweian women must have a fire in them. They seem to do amazing things in whatever situation life gives them. My own mother-in-law is as sweet a person as I could ever hope for. I couldn't say all the wonderful things about her that I would love to say. I hope that someday I can be as good of a mother in law to my children's spouses as she is to me.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16733860973554500488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-57101021914261767132011-10-03T22:37:58.249-04:002011-10-03T22:37:58.249-04:00What fun for you and your mother in law! That'...What fun for you and your mother in law! That's a great photo of her.<br /><br />I knew my MIL briefly before she passed away in 1992 and I never met my father in law and it's a shame because it would have been nice to know both of MathMan's parents. I think I'd understand him better if I'd met his father. And I think to have known his father as an adult would have been such a good thing for him. Yeek! Sorry to be such a downer.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-22227484680299116612011-10-03T21:34:37.065-04:002011-10-03T21:34:37.065-04:00Ooh, scary MIL stories! Deb, I never heard yours. ...Ooh, scary MIL stories! Deb, I never heard yours. Karen, I feel for you!!! Kelly, YAY!!! Congrats and have fun!!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-3722574448571600692011-10-03T21:22:20.733-04:002011-10-03T21:22:20.733-04:00Didn't even realize there were Scottish roots!...Didn't even realize there were Scottish roots!!!!! Then I just now dug out my Scotland photo album. And now I miss Scotland all over again :[Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785247788175367281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-86974840325746257402011-10-03T20:28:14.764-04:002011-10-03T20:28:14.764-04:00Um...sure. I'll share my good news. I found ou...Um...sure. I'll share my good news. I found out my official graduation date, and I'm seeing the Colin and Brad show in 6 WEEKS ON FRIDAY. My buddy from school is getting married on Saturday and I have the day off on Wednesday! <br /><br />Deb, you asked. There you go! :DKellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785247788175367281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-2233757660675217002011-10-03T18:37:31.256-04:002011-10-03T18:37:31.256-04:00By the way, your geese fly directly over my house ...By the way, your geese fly directly over my house with frightening regularity nowadays. Do you have any messages for them? :)Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04893995750373814482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-49483243112866240882011-10-03T18:17:20.381-04:002011-10-03T18:17:20.381-04:00Deb, I'm glad your Mum in law is still able to...Deb, I'm glad your Mum in law is still able to have so much fun with you. Fantastic relationship! Thankfully, no one ever gave us a hawk statue. LOL<br /><br />I've been married twice, and have had two very different relationships with my in-laws. My 1st MIL and I didn't get along very well. Kinda awkward, esp since she and my mother knew each from way back in "sons in Cub Scouts" days. The relationship has improved considerably because of my daughter. She sleeps over grandma's a lot and I've picked her up a lot. So Pat and I have finally developed a, well, not quite friendship, but I could call her for a ride if my car ever broke down. I consider that a huge positive. :)<br /><br />My second MIL lives in Virginia. We stayed with her 3 times over 10 years. She too was thrilled to have a granddaughter. I wish we could have visited her more, but it was a 12-hour drive (or at least 4 if we flew THEN drove), and it got ugly after a certain point. She was a strong woman with a thick Southern accent and a killer sense of humor. Her, I miss. (She's alive and healthy, but her son's a HUGE mama's boy, and keeping in contact was... odd, let's say.)<br /><br />Neither FIL was in the picture much. They'd divorced before, or right after, I met their sons.<br />It wasn't a big deal to the families they'd left, so it wasn't a big deal to me.<br /><br />I do miss talking and laughing with Joyce, but Pat is a loving grandmother who lives about 15 minutes away, and my daughter and I are both lucky for that.Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-33169210925278721062011-10-03T18:08:41.720-04:002011-10-03T18:08:41.720-04:00Deb, LOL, it's good we can laugh at that crap ...Deb, LOL, it's good we can laugh at that crap now, isn't it. :) The things I mentioned were only a few of the things she did to me. Should I ask what you did with the sculpture. It would have looked perfect in an old pub, don't you reckon? It's good that you had experience with a "mother-from-hell" . Not that you would ever be a MFH, but I think was good experience and will help you in your relationship with Luke's lucky gal. :) When I finally got good and tired of having my life threatened by ex#1, I left him and she gave him a brand new pickup truck if he promised to never take ME back. He told me that he had a hard decision to make. I told him "here, let me do you a favor". He got personalized plates, I got relief from DRAMA. Good trade, I think. I still love him and think about him though. You never forget your first real love, even if they are a douche with a douche lineage. :)<br />hugs<br />KarenKaren Frazierhttp://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=687592644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-84661540087702655292011-10-03T17:56:00.007-04:002011-10-03T17:56:00.007-04:00I know Madge. I love that a tribute turned into a ...I know Madge. I love that a tribute turned into a roast!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-14873311206827670712011-10-03T17:38:45.081-04:002011-10-03T17:38:45.081-04:00Love all the comments today and the mean mother-in...Love all the comments today and the mean mother-in-laws. What a nightmare if you get stuck with one of those.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-24747433773136049632011-10-03T16:56:54.327-04:002011-10-03T16:56:54.327-04:00Strangely enough it met with a hideous accident fr...Strangely enough it met with a hideous accident from which it never recovered!<br />Kelly, Good news? Wonderful wonderful! Anything you would care to share? I will keep it going. I love seeing her and spending time.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-31768259604075531202011-10-03T16:48:51.141-04:002011-10-03T16:48:51.141-04:00Wish I could respond to these earlier...but influx...Wish I could respond to these earlier...but influx of good news has kept me away!!! <br /><br />Anywho, this is a lovely post. It seems like that in this day and age people are like "oh my god....in-laws." It's almost like a curse word. :S Keep that relationship going and don't lose it. I'm sure your mother-in-law is wonderful :]Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785247788175367281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-55238653441863527412011-10-03T16:42:49.108-04:002011-10-03T16:42:49.108-04:00But it looks great on your mantle piece!But it looks great on your mantle piece!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-35277039440666166092011-10-03T15:49:35.492-04:002011-10-03T15:49:35.492-04:00Karen are you kidding me?????? That is crazy, and ...Karen are you kidding me?????? That is crazy, and not the good kind of crazy. That is scary stuff. I was married before to a lovely man for three years. He was a sweetheart but it was not to be as I had married him for all the wrong reasons. His Mother, God Rest her, showed her disdain for our union by giving us a sculpture of a hawk with a limp dead rabbit in it's talons. Oy.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-44082415471904765002011-10-03T15:37:33.211-04:002011-10-03T15:37:33.211-04:00Wow Deb, you were truly lucky to have gotten such ...Wow Deb, you were truly lucky to have gotten such a great set of in-laws. I was not as blessed. My first mother-in-hell was not thrilled with her sons choice of me. We ended up having to stay with her for a bit. During that time she took our bedroom door away so we had NO privacy, and I would wake up in the night to find her standing over me...staring at me *shivers*. When I would leave for awhile she would take all of our clothes out of the big dresser, distribute her sons clothes neatly in all the drawers except for the last one, and shove 2 1/2 drawers of my stuff into the very bottom drawer. I came "home" once to find her washing all of my good work blouses with a lot of bleach. She said she was doing me a favor because bleach kills germs. She did a lot of other things but I don't want to hijack your blog with her craziness. :)<br />Yep, you were VERY lucky. <br />hugs,<br />KarenKaren Frazierhttp://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=687592644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-7060817866413875122011-10-03T14:16:16.099-04:002011-10-03T14:16:16.099-04:00Thanks Lyndsie!Thanks Lyndsie!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-52505653443508569442011-10-03T13:10:39.505-04:002011-10-03T13:10:39.505-04:00Yes the good kind if crazy in ok, and Deb in sure...Yes the good kind if crazy in ok, and Deb in sure that you will be a great Mother in law. And I agree Sheila looks great in that picture.Lyndsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474928538640746195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-90657249856354467282011-10-03T12:53:51.911-04:002011-10-03T12:53:51.911-04:00Lyndsie, I think it's great that you have pare...Lyndsie, I think it's great that you have parent/grandparents. What a rich relationship that must be. And good kinda crazy is good right? Madge what a gift you gave your Mom in law. She will be waiting at the gates of heaven for you, with wine, chocolate and hugs. Kate thanks for the comment about Sheila. It is a rough time for her to be sure but she is such a strong strong woman. And yes, I think she is gorgeous in this shot, thanks. Mother in law from heaven. Lovely. That is what I aspire to be!!!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-25894563843061097782011-10-03T12:17:19.797-04:002011-10-03T12:17:19.797-04:00Whoops! Sorry.Whoops! Sorry.Blondi Blathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656970490122824720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-84963719538531194222011-10-03T12:16:46.799-04:002011-10-03T12:16:46.799-04:00Lovely photo, Deb, and glad to see Sheila looking ...Lovely photo, Deb, and glad to see Sheila looking so well after the year she's had. <br />You hear stories about the mother-in-law from hell, but I call mine the mother-in-law from heaven because she's such a sweetie.Blondi Blathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656970490122824720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-37534326796627704892011-10-03T12:16:34.478-04:002011-10-03T12:16:34.478-04:00Lovely photo, Deb, and glad to see Sheila looking ...Lovely photo, Deb, and glad to see Sheila looking so well after the year she's had. <br />You hear stories about the mother-in-law from hell, but I call mine the mother-in-law from heaven because she's such a sweetie.Blondi Blathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656970490122824720noreply@blogger.com