tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post5643289005347201798..comments2023-09-24T11:26:16.606-04:00Comments on The Middle Ages: When I Was A LesbianDeb and Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04444390852070865517noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-16964058602835650832012-01-24T20:59:50.139-05:002012-01-24T20:59:50.139-05:00Hooray! Just wanted to make sure! ^__^Hooray! Just wanted to make sure! ^__^Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978291067668508362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-83556990034496649592012-01-24T20:59:08.477-05:002012-01-24T20:59:08.477-05:00Oh thank you, Barb, it did! :)Oh thank you, Barb, it did! :)Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978291067668508362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-61751570512320999762012-01-24T15:38:29.110-05:002012-01-24T15:38:29.110-05:00thanks guys . i appreciate your kind words .thanks guys . i appreciate your kind words .Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-22158928601995478012012-01-24T11:04:45.956-05:002012-01-24T11:04:45.956-05:00Linda,I'm sorry to hear that. Send you much st...Linda,I'm sorry to hear that. Send you much strength, a lot of hugs, and best wishesBeckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11056971028004881629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-65755122701025317552012-01-24T08:42:29.100-05:002012-01-24T08:42:29.100-05:00Oh, Linda! I am so sorry to hear about your mom...Oh, Linda! I am so sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis. Sending you both HUGE love and best best wishes.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-65001108666438330292012-01-23T23:46:34.131-05:002012-01-23T23:46:34.131-05:00Linda - I'm starting to feel a bit better. Now...Linda - I'm starting to feel a bit better. Now recovering from a bladder infection, but I made it to work today! Go me!! :)<br /><br />Thanks, Barb. I didn't take the time to reread what I wrote. My son distracted me for a bit before I got a chance to finish.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04115352587183592646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-66046431923283632542012-01-23T23:36:22.234-05:002012-01-23T23:36:22.234-05:00Oh, Linda. *sniffle* *hugs for your mom* *hugs f...Oh, Linda. *sniffle* *hugs for your mom* *hugs for you*Rigelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-82549642594769546212012-01-23T23:30:04.808-05:002012-01-23T23:30:04.808-05:00Yup.Yup.Rigelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-84300078808702031722012-01-23T23:04:36.916-05:002012-01-23T23:04:36.916-05:00**hugs** : )
Seeing people like all of you make m...**hugs** : )<br />Seeing people like all of you make me happy and hopeful too.Kelly from NJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11695507266814571692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-37248512910599044932012-01-23T21:58:12.408-05:002012-01-23T21:58:12.408-05:00Me too, Kelly, me too.Me too, Kelly, me too.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-75222425676177480322012-01-23T21:57:23.219-05:002012-01-23T21:57:23.219-05:00Kelly, thanks so much for letting us know and shar...Kelly, thanks so much for letting us know and sharing this. And for your gracious empathy. It's amazing that people can go through the kind of bullying that you and Linda had to suffer and still grow into such lovely, loving beings. That's what makes me hopeful.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-7296959218699221172012-01-23T21:54:52.525-05:002012-01-23T21:54:52.525-05:00Ahhh, I don't think I can click on this link e...Ahhh, I don't think I can click on this link either, Rigel. But that it was done saddens and sickens me.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-39445459682756221832012-01-23T21:53:16.171-05:002012-01-23T21:53:16.171-05:00Actually, I think your analogy is perfect, Sarah. ...Actually, I think your analogy is perfect, Sarah. And I happen to agree with it. (love that sign-off!)Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-67845353353447586392012-01-23T21:52:02.724-05:002012-01-23T21:52:02.724-05:00Oh, we so know that words can be just as damaging ...Oh, we so know that words can be just as damaging as actions, Jo. I'm glad to read about your courage in staying true to yourself in high school, Jo -- that tenacity shows through even now. (and PS this was so not a ramble! well said!!)Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020502430509158737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-59359910585518211382012-01-23T21:38:21.767-05:002012-01-23T21:38:21.767-05:00Oh Rigel, I saw that article (my friend posted it ...Oh Rigel, I saw that article (my friend posted it on his facebook). It's disgusting. I had to look away. <br /><br />I don't understandKellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785247788175367281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-30329834392618125572012-01-23T21:38:01.697-05:002012-01-23T21:38:01.697-05:00Are you Pepsibookcat? :]Are you Pepsibookcat? :]Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978291067668508362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-51842286712828809582012-01-23T21:26:11.874-05:002012-01-23T21:26:11.874-05:00When I look back on it now, I'm not sorry it h...When I look back on it now, I'm not sorry it happened. In fact, quite the contrary. It made me a stronger person. :] <br /><br />P.S. Thanks for the Twitter follow!!! :DKellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785247788175367281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-75912310681930625942012-01-23T21:04:16.455-05:002012-01-23T21:04:16.455-05:00I know, I thought the same when I read your post L...I know, I thought the same when I read your post Linda. <br />School can be so hard.Kelly from NJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11695507266814571692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-24735728219870251252012-01-23T20:38:26.356-05:002012-01-23T20:38:26.356-05:00you experiences of school sound much like my own k...you experiences of school sound much like my own kelly , except my bullying was more emotional then physicalLindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-737060174517130612012-01-23T20:33:05.444-05:002012-01-23T20:33:05.444-05:00I have been glued to this blog all day. This topic...I have been glued to this blog all day. This topic is such a moving topic that I simply couldn’t stay away today. I just kept checking back to read everyone’s stories and opinions. I have got to say that, by far, this is the most supportive and loving group of people I have ever had the privilege of being a part of. <br />I am straight.<br />I tend to take the discrimination towards gay people slightly personal. <br />1 - My cousin is gay and I love him all the same. <br />2 - And due to how high school was so traumatic for me. <br />Gay people are fighting the world for the right to be considered “normal”. From day one of freshmen year it was me against the “world”. Or what I considered the “world” at that point in time. My “world” consisted of high school, home and friends. High school was hell, and that’s putting it mildly. I was bullied physically and emotionally. Home was where I lived and spent my time. And friends didn’t exist in my small “world”. <br />In a small way, I feel for anyone who is bullied and consistently told that they are wrong and don’t matter, because I was made to feel that way for four long years. Luckily I graduated. Gay people are never going to just leave their struggle behind like I did. I am scarred from my experience so I can’t imagine what it is like to be gay in the world today. It must be a constant battle. <br />I know my battle wasn’t nearly as large or significant in the grand scheme of things, but I can’t help but see the similarities. <br />Seeing how all of you here are so open and supportive is extremely uplifting. <br />Thank YouKelly from NJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11695507266814571692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-45127472364074081672012-01-23T20:25:05.833-05:002012-01-23T20:25:05.833-05:00just want to ask Jo how are you doing . o hope yo...just want to ask Jo how are you doing . o hope you are feeling a little bit better .Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-44212059136061434552012-01-23T20:19:28.513-05:002012-01-23T20:19:28.513-05:00i have to say i am impressed with your post Rigel....i have to say i am impressed with your post Rigel. i was brought up a roman catholic but , for various reasons , gave up my faith several years ago . it is very hard to move away from what i was brought up to believe for 30 plus years of my life . i don't regret it though . thankfully my parents were understanding. i am glad to see you have moved beyond the homophobia that you were taught growing up . <br /><br />your son sounds like an intelligent , kind and good guy. as someone who was bullied myself in school i am so sad to hear what is happening to him . i would love to know what makes other kids think they have the right to bully . <br /><br /> i have read and re read your post barbara . i am amazed that a peck on the cheek between 2 girls should start such a hate campaign. i remember when i was a teenager the worst thing you could be was to be seen as being different to the majority even if you weren't. makes me glad i always was . <br /><br />update on my mom: i got a phone call from the hospital this morning to say dad and i were wanted in the hospital to meet with the orthopedic surgeon when mom got her test results today . she was diagnosed with myeloma this afternoon . as i had looked it up it was not a surprise for me to hear the news , mom fitted all the symptoms i had found . she has been taking out of the care of her orthopedic surgeon and put under the care of her oncologist and moved to the cancer floor in the hospital. what we were told is mom will be put on some sort of chemo therapy whether it will be tablet form or liquid in a drip form we do not know as moms oncologist has just got back from a trip to the states . she will see his locum tomorrow , probably seeing him on either Wednesday or thursday , i hope. still no sign of mom coming home either .Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-8035396586202590602012-01-23T20:17:32.080-05:002012-01-23T20:17:32.080-05:00WARNING: DEB!!! Do NOT click on this link. Do not ...WARNING: DEB!!! Do NOT click on this link. Do not even read the link's url. DEB - This is NOT for you. NO NO NO!!! Don't go there!!!<br /><br />Tying together last week's post on politics and the people and today's post on ignorance, hate, and laws, this broke in Arkansas news today. <br /><br />(Warning: Disturbing photograph at top of article.)<br /><br />http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2012/01/23/arkansas-dems-pet-murdered-with-liberal-scrawled-on-corpse/<br /><br />I had just eaten dinner. I had vomit literally climb up the back of my throat as I read the article.Rigelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-86632442205456561832012-01-23T19:33:58.944-05:002012-01-23T19:33:58.944-05:00You know, it's weird. There's a lesbian co...You know, it's weird. There's a lesbian couple who has lived across the street from the house I grew up in for as long as I can remember - and I've got a steel-trap memory!<br />I'm straight, but I've never really been affected by the social stigma surrounding GLBT. Maybe that had something to do with it. In fact, some of my best friends are gay and it doesn't change who they are. It's like, one day he's Kenny. The next day, he tells me he's gay and to me, he's still Kenny. He just happens to like the same thing as me. So? Doesn't change his killer sense of humour. Doesn't change his amazing voice. Doesn't change anything at all.<br />If you'll indulge me in a very odd and slightly psychotic analogy, for me it's like finding out someone's heritage. Going up to a friend and saying "Hey, I'm a quarter Polish," isn't any weirder than saying "Hey, I like guys".<br />I realize I'm in the vast minority on this one, but it's the truth, right? Why live caged in lies and painful deception when you could be free and soaring high above the world?<br /><br />May your life be interesting,<br />SarahSarahhttp://www.tantumhumanus.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-51717901196504120802012-01-23T19:29:18.020-05:002012-01-23T19:29:18.020-05:00My high school days were honestly atrocious. I gr...My high school days were honestly atrocious. I grew up in Small Town (town population 200), Prairie Province. From grade 6 on, I was called a lesbian, gay, and so forth until I moved in the middle of Grade 12. I was called these things not because of anything specific I did (not to the detail that you've been through, Barb), but because I Was Different. I didn't follow the crowd. Unlike my classmates, I never understood (and still don't to be honest) or valued the "time honoured" tradition of drinking until you pass out on both Friday and Saturday, and recuperate on Sunday, and brag about it on Monday. I preferred reading. I enjoyed school, and wasn't afraid to use my brain. <br /><br />In the summer between grade 8 and 9, I had an epiphany of sorts. Even though I wanted these people to be my friends, they will never be true friends - because they didn't value me for me. My peers used those labels of lesbian, and gay (and the other mean things), as a means to get me to conform to their norms, and if I did, they'd change them to keep me on the outside. And, I learned that "Homey don't play that game." I started to value me for me, and learned to sort of say "To hell with 'em."<br /><br />Was I ever physically attacked? No, but the words, said with hate, are just as damaging. I didn't "get educated" until I went to University, and met some people who became my friends. From them, I learned how not to judge, and accept people who for who they are... <br /><br />(sorry for the ramble)...Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04115352587183592646noreply@blogger.com