tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post876002140232836136..comments2023-09-24T11:26:16.606-04:00Comments on The Middle Ages: Therapy BrownerDeb and Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04444390852070865517noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-708926187366098072012-04-18T13:22:47.850-04:002012-04-18T13:22:47.850-04:00Becki, Becki, Becki... You are my lost twin :)) Wr...Becki, Becki, Becki... You are my lost twin :)) Writing indeed is a relief. My friend (and also my aunt) both go to therapist and they both were given pills. Both of them have told me how dizzy they are after the meds are taken away. Also my friend has had some bad ones that have made the situation worse.Kaskuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09551403219738694648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-49845464904339851002012-04-17T19:53:35.602-04:002012-04-17T19:53:35.602-04:00Seana, this story is lovely! I am tearing up a bit...Seana, this story is lovely! I am tearing up a bit now. So beautiful, yet simple. <br /><br />Mary, I so understand what you're saying about animals in shelters. My mother recently adopted one from a shelter and we had a hard time just taking one home instead of trying to take them all with us!Stephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-46661825539980414302012-04-17T11:30:41.392-04:002012-04-17T11:30:41.392-04:00Aww, Mary - big hugs for you too! I understand the...Aww, Mary - big hugs for you too! I understand the feeling of anger towards the siblings. When I was caring for Mom 24/7 AND raising 2 little girls AND taking care of 2 households, I really resented my brother & sister just standing by. Then I realized that, emotionally anyhow, I was most likely the strongest one, better able to handle the stress. Sometimes it's all about perspective... much love to you!Daisy Greenhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=524911382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-56565800857247533682012-04-16T23:29:17.938-04:002012-04-16T23:29:17.938-04:00These last two sentences waaaay down at the bottom...These last two sentences waaaay down at the bottom of my reply shouldn't still be there. I guess I scrolled down a LOT.)Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-37168412403727541082012-04-16T23:26:54.505-04:002012-04-16T23:26:54.505-04:00Deb, I'm so happy you've found someone you...Deb, I'm so happy you've found someone you're comfortable with. It can take a long time to find the "right fit," and when you do, you know it. When you say, "My problem however is that once I get started, I don’t want to leave," you have nailed it. Trusting someone enough to talk about things you may not want to admit to ANYONE is a HUGE step, and you get a sticker for even walking in the door. I think the gold star moment came when you showed up for the second appointment. Saying, "Yup, there really is work to be done here, and I'm willing to do it," and actually DOING it? HUGE. Brava to you, Deb.<br /><br />I should have been seeing a therapist years before I actually did, but, as we've noted, older generations didn't view it as necessary. I had a brief "incident" and then "everything went back to normal." (Damn you, 20/20 hindsight.) "Cheer up" is the worst thing someone could ever say to me, yet so many people thought (and still think) that that's all it takes. "Here's that positive attitude, you know you're strong, stronger than you think, you don't need help, etc..." Sigh...<br /><br />A therapist, by their very nature, isn't going to judge you for needing or wanting to see one. The lack of judgment is the first thing I noticed, what I value the most. I'm not wrong for going to therapy. I'm not wrong or weak or "taking the easy way out" by taking medication. The psych prescriptions I'm on are as necessary as the insulin I inject. I know what life was like before meds, and I know I'm much different now. I even have a witness to that. :D<br />I've found a meds guy (doctor, that is), and a therapist who I finally believe aren't just there to listen to me for 50 minutes. I'm not just so desperate that I have to pay someone to listen to me. <br /><br />(I'm curious as to whether those who say they don't want to take any meds take aspirin or Tylenol for a headache. If they're willing to treat physical pain, why judge emotional pain? Some doctors may prescribe things, saying, "Well before we start, I'm giving you a prescription for this." If someone does do that and that's not how you do things, FIND ANOTHER DOCTOR. Not everyone does things the same way.)<br /><br />(NOTE: I suggest that, if you need help beyond a couple of chats with someone, and if your health insurance allows it, do not use your PCP as your therapist. They are well-trained to watch for signs, but they are not trained therapists or psychiatrists, and may not be able to meet your needs. A good PCP will recommend you to someone if you and he/she decide you would benefit from more help.)<br /><br />Deb, I'll teach the class with you. We'll rock it! :)<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />I can't currently see myself ever not seeing a therapist. Part is because I will always need the meds.Dawnhttp://boom-child.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-41111079901648107232012-04-16T21:12:42.433-04:002012-04-16T21:12:42.433-04:00Linda I totally agree with you. Drugs are very ver...Linda I totally agree with you. Drugs are very very useful and each case is different. If she needs them and they help and given the givens of what she is dealing with I say WHY NOT?????? I am so sorry to hear that she is going through such trauma. But I am happy to hear that she is covered. Keeping loving thoughts for you and your mom.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-45036773085024724822012-04-16T21:10:04.476-04:002012-04-16T21:10:04.476-04:00Don't feel too badly about it Kelly. I was als...Don't feel too badly about it Kelly. I was also one of those people. When I was younger I thought therapy meant you were on your last mental legs. We all live and learn don't we? All I can say from my experience is YAY!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-15742692329639722722012-04-16T20:29:07.992-04:002012-04-16T20:29:07.992-04:00Deb i sympathize with what you are going through r...Deb i sympathize with what you are going through right now . it is a really good idea to get help when you need to . things can and do get too much and i always feel emotions have to go somewhere so better to find a safe place to let them out .<br /><br />i haven't been around hear the last few posts as mom collapsed on Easter Sunday and was taken back into hospital again until last saturday . third time in about a month she has collapsed . <br />anyway my point being the strange thing is mom was visited by a psychologist Dr Gillian and to my surprise mom told me she talked to her openly . my mom is of the generation that believes you don;t talk to strangers about your problems . the upshot is she has been put on anti anxiety medication . i don;t believe in throwing anti depressants at people who are a bit down solves much but i do believe in moms case(and the case of those that suffer form serious depression) giving her medication is a good idea as mom has always suffered from extreme anxiety long before she had cancer . i hope the medication will keep her a little calmer and that it won;t react with her chemo .Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12089552255135338948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-154944615871509592012-04-16T19:36:39.800-04:002012-04-16T19:36:39.800-04:00In my opinion, there is NOTHING wrong with going t...In my opinion, there is NOTHING wrong with going to therapy. In fact, I think it is a practice we should all adopt ourselves. I myself have toyed with the idea of going; they offer free services here at the college! I don't have an anxiety disorder or I'm not depressed or any of the typical biases that are associated with people going to therapy. I just think it would be healthy and useful. <br /><br />That's what gets me. I am ashamed to say that I used to be one of those people who thought people who went to therapy had problems and needed help. Why would anyone EVER want to pay to have someone listen to their problems? However, going into mental health has really changed my focus. These are just regular people that are taking advantage of an excellent service! I have plenty of friends that utilize this, and they love it! Gives me another reason of maybe considering it for myself...I don't know. We'll see! :]Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785247788175367281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-38804470339132162632012-04-16T18:30:20.405-04:002012-04-16T18:30:20.405-04:00"helped me think less by giving me tools to l..."helped me think less by giving me tools to let go when anxiety got too high"<br /><br />Madge - Please describe.Rigelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-58707172633449525092012-04-16T17:23:51.736-04:002012-04-16T17:23:51.736-04:00I will not tell you that Becki. I will tell you to...I will not tell you that Becki. I will tell you to never ever stop searching your soul for peace and solutions. Never stop doing that.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-62817900345379272512012-04-16T17:21:53.732-04:002012-04-16T17:21:53.732-04:00Aimee thanks. Things are progressing slowly but su...Aimee thanks. Things are progressing slowly but surely. All of your good thoughts help me so much. And yes it is hard to change the thought of generations of family isn't it? One of the reasons I love the time I was born in.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-5941877464123320082012-04-16T17:20:25.200-04:002012-04-16T17:20:25.200-04:00Kasku, no good doctor is going to make you take pi...Kasku, no good doctor is going to make you take pills. They are there to help you understand yourself but they are not the boss of your body. I know someone who has had good results with natural methods and I know others who take pills. I think it's up to the individual. And if you can't do it, then strangers on line works too! :-) xo<br />And for you too Becki xoDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-85521300481346229812012-04-16T17:17:45.534-04:002012-04-16T17:17:45.534-04:00Oh Erin...actually, you just did. xoOh Erin...actually, you just did. xoDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-80119331535401294762012-04-16T17:17:13.972-04:002012-04-16T17:17:13.972-04:00How lovely of you to say. Don't forget what a ...How lovely of you to say. Don't forget what a gift you guys are to us too! "Therapy isn't failing myself"-Good sentence.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-46835161223923972702012-04-16T17:17:04.471-04:002012-04-16T17:17:04.471-04:00First of all...I'm always stunned and touched,...First of all...I'm always stunned and touched, when I read your honest and emotional entries. <br />That you don't hide or act as if nothing's bothering you, makes me love you sooo much!<br /><br />Second: I should see a therapist. I know that I need help. Really, I know it!<br /><br />But like Kasku I don't want to take some happy pills (I know that it's not that simple)...or worse.<br /><br />I don't trust therapists. <br />My brother and my father were both in therapy.<br /><br />I can't see a change at all. Maybe they feel different inside...but they don't show it outside. And I can't see development. Not at all. <br /><br />And I can't talk to people. I can't talk to friends. I can't talk to family members, and I definitely can't talk to strangers. No way.<br /><br />Besides, I always think: Heeeey, they don't give a damn. They only want to earn money (might help some people! It doesn't help me).<br /><br />It's not that I'm afraid to bare my soul. I can write it down - like I do here. Writing always helps me. Writing is a relief.<br /><br />I know things have to change. I know I can't go on like this forever. I don't know what to do. I always think that someday some miracle happens, and everything will be fine again (sounds as if I lay back and relax...I don't. Living is fighting. Living is so exhausting).<br /><br />Liar.<br /><br />Or the only hope I have?<br /><br />Please, don't tell me I should try...because some people have done that, but I can't. I just can't...Beckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11056971028004881629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-17462434630016973462012-04-16T17:15:53.214-04:002012-04-16T17:15:53.214-04:00I think you are right. Some people may feel they a...I think you are right. Some people may feel they are being verbally analyzed but of course it is not the case. Or at least not in my experience. What a great thing to happen in therapy-to be told that you should be the therapist. Well done!!!!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-30264812120732344492012-04-16T17:14:07.433-04:002012-04-16T17:14:07.433-04:00Oh Madge that made me howl. "when you stop as...Oh Madge that made me howl. "when you stop asking me, and that is part of the reason I go". I am so glad you do therapy. I have only had the one therapist but there have been years between going for issues and when I do go it is so wonderful. I will hold you to those stars and stickers.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-53468011406182975252012-04-16T17:10:39.110-04:002012-04-16T17:10:39.110-04:00My family don't like therapy either. If someon...My family don't like therapy either. If someone went it's the sort of thing that would be talked about in hushed tones with disapproving faces. They hold many misconceptions about therapists and what they do. I've tried to talk it out with my Mum but I'm not sure it worked. I could try again and do it properly this time, though... hmmm... Anyway I always say that therapy is like a doctor for your mind and emotions, which are at least as important to take care of as your physical body. I've never been to therapy but fully respect anyone who has.<br />Deb I really hope you and your parents will have a better time of it soon <3Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16572155707631091585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-24087246535513822302012-04-16T17:06:12.360-04:002012-04-16T17:06:12.360-04:00Same here...
Feeling with you! :)Same here...<br />Feeling with you! :)Beckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11056971028004881629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-17011821309268353192012-04-16T17:03:37.674-04:002012-04-16T17:03:37.674-04:00Seana that is such a gorgeous story! Thanks so muc...Seana that is such a gorgeous story! Thanks so much for sharing this with us. I love it!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-41403608548803785292012-04-16T17:01:17.507-04:002012-04-16T17:01:17.507-04:00Annette that was so beautifully felt and exquisite...Annette that was so beautifully felt and exquisitely written. Thank you for these words.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-45717076993107565972012-04-16T16:59:07.746-04:002012-04-16T16:59:07.746-04:00You are welcome Samara. I am saying to myself ever...You are welcome Samara. I am saying to myself every night and every day that I am doing the best I can. All we give is our best, that's all isn't it? All I can say is that for me, therapy has enriched my experience of life.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-8378970578442825822012-04-16T16:56:54.042-04:002012-04-16T16:56:54.042-04:00Shalaka you would be the best uplifter I know! Tha...Shalaka you would be the best uplifter I know! That is sometime I am actually good at too if I do say so myself. However I would much rather be the uplifter than the upliftee!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1528510907038944744.post-20514675601266890872012-04-16T16:52:34.051-04:002012-04-16T16:52:34.051-04:00Mary that is exactly what sometimes happens. My th...Mary that is exactly what sometimes happens. My therapist launches it with one single well placed comment or question and then I go go go and figure it out myself. I love when that happens. Thanks Mary for your good wishes. I will happily accept them.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041122116481448321noreply@blogger.com