Why Does My Husband Get it And I Don't?

Deb: I’m a bright girl! I’ve been well edumacated! So why does it take me so long to grasp simple technical things? For example, I learn on Tuesday how to organize my photos. Wednesday, I look at the screen and cock my head to the side like a dog! My husband comes over and calmly goes: click, drag, pull, puff ... and done. “Thank you dear,” I say, not meaning it. Eventually I get it, but it takes days, sometimes weeks, even months. I swear he is NOT smarter than me! Okay, he may disagree, but hey, this is MY blog. Truly––WE ARE EQUAL SMART! So how come he “gets it”? 

Barbara: Oh my gaawwwwd! This is so me! Why, oh why, does it take so long (if ever) for me to absorb technical things? I feel like I should wear a “I’m a techno-simp” bib when talking with, well, anyone who owns a TV, DVD player, or computer––especially my husband!  My husband's grasp of electronics and such just blows me away. It's like he just has to LOOK at a piece of equipment to understand it. And I, sadly, never, ever feel like I get it no matter how many times I STUDY it....

Deb and I already riffed on our low E.Q. (Electronics Quotient) when we bemoaned our blog-making-conundrums, but it’s especially frustrating when the “illiteracy” involves everyday items, like new-fangled washing machines or coffee-makers. 

Deb: Add to that the humiliation of my three-year-old niece grabbing the remote from me with a look of disgust on her face when I couldn’t access the “Movies on Demand” channel. I thought I handled it with great maturity. Told her I’d run out of cookies.

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Barbara: So if you look at the date of our first post, you might notice that it says April 1, but you might also notice that we are only really going “live” this week (April 19). And you might ask yourself, Boy, what took them so long to get going? And I might––but probably shouldn’t—tell you that we’ve actually been trying to get this baby up since February!!!! And these blogs were written that long ago!! Apparently this is exactly how long it takes for two tech-illiterate middle-aged women to acclimatize themselves to the confounding worlds of (in no particular order): the internet, setting up a blog (we actually designed 7 different ones on 3 different sites before settling on this one), learning and sort-of using html (what even IS that??!!), writing blogs, and tentatively but excitedly exploring the outside world of other sites. Hopefully, our poor taxed brains won’t self-combust in this new venture! Wish us luck …

Deb: I don’t see what the hell you’re complaining about. It was EASY! I sat here quite content in my bloggy ignorance while you did all the work. Easy. Then I took time out of my very busy schedule so you could drive to my home and explain it to me. Easy. 

Barbara: No, that’s absolutely not the way it was!!!! ... well, um … maybe it actually kinda was …

PS We have received several private emails with amazing insights into friendship––but it seems Deb and I aren’t the only ones hesitant about the blog-world because none of these people were sure how to comment and join, and several people HAVE joined and commented and can't be seen! So … I’ve changed the comment setting to “anyone”, meaning you don’t need to sign up to comment. But if anyone can give us more info about these other settings (that look so damn professional on the screen, but have confounded pretty much ALL of us), we’d be eternally grateful!!