Deb: When I write, I tend to lean on the emphasis devises. If you read our blog you will know this to be true. You will be hard-pressed to find more “!!!!!!!’s” or more “LOVE IT’s” or more “:-)‘s” if you searched the web 4EVER!!!!!
I guess I do this because it is the way I speak and the way I feel and I want this to come through in my writing.
AND for want of better vocabulary I must fall back on !!!!!!! LOVE :-)))))))))))) et al.
For today’s installation I have employed the “italicized” devise because I felt I needed to UNDERSCORE my joy.
MY HUSBAND IS HOME. :-)
We decided for career reasons that he should spend this past four weeks in L.A. I could not join him given my responsibilities at home with my Mom and Dad. We knew we could get through it and we did. And we are used to being apart. But not for a month. And what we found was this:
Not a bit. Nope. Doesn’t work for us. During his away we would Skype and text and call and email and FB but it didn’t work for us.
We had to examine the why of it and in doing so discovered the reason.
Don’t wanna be apart. Marriage works in all sorts of ways for all sorts of people but for us people, our marriage, it doesn’t work apart.
Paul and Linda McCartney said they never spent a day apart. They were lucky. They had the means and the money to make that happen. We do not.
But what we do know is that after this away experiment we will not do it again. How many of us have to make these compromises?
What we have discovered through this period of away is the fact that despite what you have to do when you have to do it does not mean you have to do it the way you think it has to be done.
We cannot change what our life is right now. It is what it is.
We cannot change the needs of the many or the needs of the few. (special thanks for paraphrasing that quote goes to the Geek in me)
But we can change the effort. We can choose not to take the easy road and think it’s going to be livable.
Sometimes the shortest line between two points is the longest road.
From this point on we have decided that our marriage requires that we take one hundred hours to do a two hour drive.
With apologies to my husband I give you his nemesis—Sting. But in my defense, Sting nails it.
P.S. Video aside the words are the message here.
Barbara: First things first, Deb: I was under the (often embarrassed) impression that I far out-italicized/EMPHASIZED you here!! I’ve even admired your restraint for the most part for all words emphaSIZED. I hate to usurp you in any way, but I had to call it before someone else does. I mean, can I use any more question marks or exclamation marks in my stories, responses, and comments???!!! Anyway, I had to get that out of my system. I am a lover of speak-writing the italics, so clearly I hear you here.
As for the italicized love, I can only say that you made my heart pitter-patter with this post. You’ve been such a trouper this last month. If Colin is reading this: it’s true she has. This month defines Deb’s spirit. She never once complained, she filled her time, she did her thing, she had fun. Let me say that again: SHE NEVER ONCE COMPLAINED!!!! (you see what I did there—caps and italics and exclamation points) It’s only now that you are home, Colin, that she has let the damn burst and let her true feelings of missing you have their way with her. I am so happy you two are back together. The world is as it should be once again.