Friday, January 25, 2013

Change Is Good.


Deb: We grow from change, I think. I should know as the change surrounding me in my life right now is swirling and whirling and sweeping. Yep. Right across the board, I am feeling these changes. Some of them are wonderful, some are sad, and some are bittersweet. But they all have one thing in common. They are forward-moving. They are taking me to a new place. They have me re-examining and re-thinking. They have sparked me and challenged me and opened me up to a world of new ways of looking and interacting with my world and the world at large.

So I think I am about to be creative in a way I never have been before. At what, you might ask? I don’t know. But I am sooooo open and things are coming to me. I think I am bringing it in, drawing it towards me. I am sure that I am about to find some new and exciting things to fill my head and my heart and my time. Not all the changes are what I would have wished for, but they are also changes I cannot control. So my only choice is to find the joy in them and accept the challenge of making things better. My Dad always says, “Damn, I zigged when I should have zagged.” So I’m going to zig and zag and travel down some new roads. I feel some big lovely changes coming for me, but I am happy to wait for them to arrive. Because I am enjoying the anticipation. What’s next, I wonder?

What. Is. Next?

Barbara: As you well know, dear Deb, but as our readers might not, I feel EXACTLY they same way right now. It’s strange, I was always the woman with the script—this was going to happen, then that. If I worked hard and worked toward my goal(s), then that would happen and so would this, this and this. It was very comforting to have a plan. It worked with my character and with my ideas. But this is the first time I’ve ever thrown the script out—and understood that I have to—in order to move into the next phase, whatever that will be. Now, don’t get me wrong, I still have goals and dreams and projects, and I still believe that these are useful and interesting to have, but I’m not dictating in my mind the step-by-step process that (I imagine) will bring them to fruition. Instead, I am going through a process of renewal, one where I am open to anything. Still in the cocoon, mind you, but excited to be here. I, too, wonder what will happen next. Wonder is a glorious thing, isn’t it?

50 comments:

  1. I know I've said it a hundred times but I'm so thankful for this blog. I find myself sliding back to my old ways of seeing things as negative and then I come here to look at things a new way. As you both know I'm in the same boat with changes thrust upon me and others of my choosing but change nonetheless also swirling around me. My granddaughter will turn one this Saturday and I've noticed how her face lights up when she sees me now and how she looks at everything with wonder and then says oh and points in case I missed it. My goal is to start seeing things through her eyes as much as I can! Happy 1st Birthday Mariella as I begin my new outlook on life and learn to go with the flow and find wonder in all things! Much love to you ladies XO

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    1. Happy birthday, Marielle!! Such a cutie :)

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    2. Mary what a lovely goal-to see things through your grandaughter's eyes! Can't think of anything better.

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    3. MariellA, I know, don't know where that "e" came from!

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  2. Loved all the new energy swirling around you two. I am also thinking about what comes next.

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    1. For you too Madge as you are always always up for the new and the exciting. You are an explorer!

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  3. Having the energy to deal with what comes up, having it be a positive energy, regardless of what the upcoming challenges, comes with these feelings you gals are having. Being open to upcoming challenges will provide the energy. May the challenges be gentle.

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    1. Oh Dawn how lovely. May your challenges be gentle too.

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  4. Thanks for the quick perspective slant. I've just started a new job (a one year contract that - two weeks in - I'm quite enjoying), but there is so much to learn.

    Right now, I need to go with the flow and do the best that I can - both on the work and home fronts - and not beat myself up for missing things.

    I look forward to seeing what the next stages of your journey will look like.

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    1. Jo you are so right. Do NOT beat yourself up for anything. Work and home. You are doing the best you can!

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  5. My time has been filled with lectures, reading, and writing. My life has changed a great deal this last year and I am trying to get used to it all.
    Best of luck with your changes!

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  6. Did I miss something or did we get two posts in one day..... I'm not complaining just wondering if I'm on the same boat here. Or if I am so tired that I can't keep the days straight anymore. <--- A very possible option
    Wait maybe this is a part of that change thing we're talking about. :)
    Anyway I like small changes that don't disrupt the big picture too rapidly. Case in point I took up crocheting (<--- spelling?) over winter break! I actually like it. I haven't figured out how it differs from knitting but I have made a coaster and book cover! Yay to change and doing new things!!

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    1. Kelly you go to the top of the class. YOU DID! Barbara just emailed me to say "damn it posted early and there are responses. So I am responding before I got to bed which is minutes away. What a lovely way to end the day. YOU are making things lovely things. Who cares what it's called. Maybe it's crochknitting! Or Kniteting!

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    2. oh I like Kniteting!! calling it that from now on :)
      -night :-)

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    3. Crochknitting? OUCH!


      (Yeah, I know, spelling.)

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  7. WOW...Its like you read my mind here. I was away for the weekend and wondered if I would miss a juicy convo. Guess I'm not going to. Thanks Deb.

    And you both know how much I believe in this...especially drawing things towards me. What I give out I get back, I always say. And its never about keeping score or wondering about the manifestation. Its all about....ALLOWING. Letting it happen. Trusting the process. Accepting what-is and being eager for more. Because no matter what time it is; past or future. Its always a past NOW and future NOW. Its always NOW for us. Every moment of everyday. And everything depends on how much we live NOW. Its delicious, isn't it?
    I say ride the happiness and rule the negative times. Doesnt matter how happy you feel or how shitty. As long as you are your own best friend, you've got no problem!

    which reminds me did you get all of my law of attraction emails?? Didnt get a reply for a long time so I was wondering. Had problems emailing Barb for a while. Anyway, gotta run love you xo

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    1. YOu are right Shalaka. It is about "allowing" whatever comes our way. Welcome it and respect it.

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  8. Thanks, everyone! I meant to post this tomorrow (as you probably know). Many times when I click on the date, the date marker "pops" back to the present date. I almost always catch and fix it. But today I scheduled the post, then promptly went out to dinner with my bff. Oops. Oh well. Still a good topic. Better early than never.

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  9. I was surprised to be the third post of the day. Usually I'm the near the end. Nice change this time. :)

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  10. This was inspiring. Thank you. <3

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  11. Wohoo, what a nice surprise :))

    I think I am and am not against change. I am against it if it is something that I haven't planned. For example, I have now scheduled some waiting. So I am not surprised or annoyied about it, because it is planned. It's quite bad I admit, but at least I do not need to stress too much about it. Just wait untill this period of waiting is over and then extend it if needed. What happens, happens but I really like to have my own way how it happens. :)

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    1. And I hope it goes your way Kasku! I hope your patience pays off for you.

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  12. What an exciting place to be, Deb and Barb! I personally love being in that space where I know I'm making changes but don't know which, and the entire world of possibilities is open to me. I know I can't choose to do everything, but before I've decided, everything is possible.
    It's funny, my sister and I have commented on how, when we tell people that we don't know how long we are spending in any country or where we're going next, some people say it's wonderful and others wonder why we aren't scared. Just different ways of seeing change.

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    1. So true Hannah! It depends on how you look at life doesn't it? Me, right now. I am all for adventure!!!

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  13. I glossed over this last night, went to bed, woke up to ice everywhere, so I'm staying in today. Now I will contribute:

    I LOVE change! Seriously! I know so many people who avoid change, who approach it kicking and screaming, but for me, change is an opportunity for me to grow and get even more out of my element, to do things I've never done before. I think we should all strive to progress; a legitimate fear of mine is stagnancy, and I think too many are too ok with that. I am not.

    I'm with you, Deb...I sense some things changing, some tables turning for me too. I see a lot of possibilities but not the next step...that's where my faith comes in! :)

    Thanks for this, Deb...getting me excited about things to come. For everyone! :D

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    1. I'm so glad we think alike Holly. Change! Bring it on!

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  14. I too am going through changes, and they are scaring me so. I find I am scared to even think about tomorrow, as the anxiety of today is as much as I can handle. I am so envious of the positive views you share of your own lives.
    I wish I had done things differently in my life. I wish I could re-start. I wold have done it differently.

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    1. anonymous, I'm like you I don't like change even though I should. it scares the hell out of me

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    2. I know it sounds like a platitude, but regret is really a tricky place to live -- you may never be that "positive" person, it might not be your way (and I also think a lot of good can come out of acknowledging the negative), but what if, since you can't change how things happened, you start by accepting that as a fact, and then work (even at a snail's pace -- a tiny something is more progressive than a huge nothing) towards making some changes that you value, that feel right for you?

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    3. I agree Barb. Maybe if you guys look at the change, the concept of change as a lovely thing full of possibility, a chance to grow you might feel better about it. And without sounding corny, the only time in life that we can't re-start, is on our death beds. You can do it. You really can.

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    4. Thank you for understanding. Thank you

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  15. when it comes to change, I have to be honest when I say that I'm no good at it. I've never been good at letting change happen. what should let whatever happens just happened I've gotten a little better at it but not perfect. I think the reason I'm so afraid of change is because I'm afraid of what the future will bring. like I said before I think I got a little better with accepting change, but I think part of me will always have that fear

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    1. The future can be your friend Lyndsie if you let it. xo

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  16. Wow! I was confused Barb, thought I had missed a whole day........and thought, "Oh well, you are really losing it, so don't be surprised" LOl
    Change.....yup...big change, even though you say some not wanted Deb, promotes growth of some kind. We gain a new perspective on things and life. I know I am about to go down a different path, don't know what it is either at this point, but I am looking forward to it. I am still walking through the woods everyday trying to feel it, to seek it, to be ready for it. I feel very privileged to be part of this blog family and discuss things like this. It is invigorating and inspiring. You have so kindly let us in to your lives and feelings, your happinesses and your pain......and how you gain from each experience. I look forward to seeing how these changes play out in your lives, you are both so talented and creative, I am just happy to be along for the ride. I know final productive of these waves in your lives will be very interesting. And you will gently teach us as you do, just by your sharing.....you go girls!!!

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    1. I meant to say" I know the final product of these waves in your lives will be very interesting" Sheesh....

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    2. Lovely comment Jo. I know that you are a gal open to change. I mean first off, what can we do about it when something changes without our permission? NOthing right? So we must make the best of it musn't we? I'm glad as Barb says below that some of these posts have great meaning to you guys following it. That, frankly is the best thing about it.

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  17. Geez, you guys are making me misty-eyed. Great messages today, great honesty and insight.

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    1. It made me very misty eyed today Barb. I thought about it a lot. We are all on a new fork in our journey.....

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  18. nothing great happens without great change. you do know that we are nearing the year of the snake in the chinese zodiac, right? and snake medicine is all about transformation. I'm in full support as you shed your skin and propel yourselves forward into your future(s). love to both of you--

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    1. Oh my! Did not know this - and, man, does it make sense! Thanks, Lori xo

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  19. Must always Zig and Zag...more difficult to hit a moving target!

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  20. I always try to embrace change, whether or not it's good or bad. A lot of changes are going to be happening to me very soon; some are already happening. Learning to adjust to the rigors of 12 hours on a floor instead of the usual 4-6. Making that transition from nursing student to entry level graduate NURSE (eek! Nurse Kelly!) Sis and I thinking of moving, yeah. Lotsa things are coming my way. It's sometimes scary and it's tempting to just run away from it. But in my life some of the best experiences I had were from changes that were occurring. Those times where I decided to take a risk. No regrets :]

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    1. I am so proud of and excited for you guys. Feel like we watched you grow up here!

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  21. Trying real hard to embrace change! Some things I'm able to embrace wholeheartedly others I'm a little slower at but I always do my best to accept what may come.
    I'm embracing the need for a change of scenery right now and am packing up to get the heck out of dodge(aka Winnipeg) for the weekend. I can't stand one more day of being locked up against the cold!

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    1. I've got a fire going and my work on my lap. Snow is gently falling. Good tunes are playing in the background. Not doing too much cavorting out there, but it's my way of enjoying being stuck inside!

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  22. You go girls! A wonderful ride indeed. There are so many more waiting for you. No tickets required.
    All the best. Always.

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