Monday, January 28, 2013

Dear Blog Family


Dear Blog Family,

With conflicted feelings whirling around us, we have come to the difficult decision to stop our regular blogging on The Middle Ages. We need you all to know that we did not in any way, shape, or form come to this lightly. In fact, we spent many hours talking back and forth, considering our options.

This is not a sad day for us, except that we will miss your voices, your stories, your support. We in no way regret one single second of this 3-year journey; it has quite literally changed our lives. It has changed us as people, and as writers. And it is as writers that we leave you today and move to other writing projects that have been in our hearts, waiting for their day.

As you can imagine, we have poured so much time into The Middle Ages, and with our personal commitments—especially of late—also taking much time, it has left little for each of us to write our … Great Canadian Novel (or fill in the blank). We find ourselves curious as to what will happen if all the energy that has been directed here over these years now gets directed elsewhere. As we said in the blog the other day, “What. Is. Next?” And we just know the same will be true for you when all the kind and loving energy you amazing readers have directed here goes to the next wonderful thing.

We are very happy to have learned so much from each and every one of you. We have shared joy and deep sorrows, compassion and strength. We have together supported each other in grief, and held each other high on shoulders of celebration. We have joined each other for holidays, and we have gotten to know your serious sides and your silly sides in Five Crazy Things. The one thing that kept blocking us from making this choice was … you. But we know we are all the better for knowing each other, and that each of us has taught and learned at least one great life lesson. 

We would love the next week to be about you, if you want to say goodbye, if you want to connect with each other, and if there are any questions you always wanted to ask, now’s your chance. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, we won’t post anything new, but will answer your comments here. Then we’ll finish up this week with a Blogging Out Loud on Friday. After that, the blog will stay up. We’re leaving it up because, down the line, if we have any big announcements to make or things we want to share with you in a new post, we can (if you want, you can subscribe on the left-hand bar to get any updates). But we also feel the community that has grown here and the stuff we’ve talked about deserves to be here for any of us who might want to revisit conversations (you can easily search in the left-hand bar for key words, and Blogger will find the pertinent stories for you). Colin can also keep you posted of any of our news through Twitter, and we will keep our Twitter feed live (although probably won’t be there a lot for the next while). Just so you know, after two weeks, Blogger won’t take comments without moderation, but since we won’t be moderating, we hate to have you think we’re ignoring you. You can comment if you want, but just so you know, we might not see it (we don’t get updates) or be able to post it for a while.

Please know, beyond everything we’ve said, that we are excited about the future and about moving forward. And we look forward to this next week with all of you.

Thank you so much and with so much love, Deb and Barbara


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  1. Oh My goodness.....You have become part of my mornings, all of you....Deb and Barb, I totally understand, but will miss you daily. You have given so much of yourselves to this blog family, I have often wondered how you manage to sustain it with your busy lives. Also when you are dealing with big changes in your lives, it is hard to maintain the energy and creativity a blog of this stature requires. We have been the beneficiaries of your kindness. I only wish you much happiness and much love.

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    1. And we have been the beneficiaries of yours! That's why this is both wonderful and difficult. I was just saying to someone that I'm actually glad this is hard -- it says a lot about how far we've come together. For me, that's the amazing and wonderful part. Thanks, Jo, for being here every day! We couldn't have done it without you. xo

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    2. Well didn't I wake up this morning read the first six comments and start to cry. Jo I think it's fitting that yours was first as it often is, because I know how you have said that it's part of your morning ritual. We have also been the beneficiaries of your kindness.

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    3. Oh boy.....is that why in the middle of my car trip I said "Deb, don't cry." ?????? We all REALLY are connected.

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  2. I forgot to say THANK YOU!!!!! Thank you so much!!! xo

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  3. Thank you.

    Thank you for the honor of getting to know you, and having your perspectives shape my world. You have challenged me, accepted me, and encouraged me to find my voice and to be proud of who I am. The smiles I had after reading your blog will never go away.

    This post feels like a graduation. The whole world is open for opportunity and growth, and you're eager to experience "what's next". How you've done this truly speaks to who you are as people - kind, empathetic, loving.

    I want to wish both of you safe and happy journeys. Know that there is one prairie gal cheering you on your next adventures.

    I must admit, I can't wait for the reunion parties - they'll be much more enjoyable than the high school reunions. :D

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    1. Oh my, how I love your analogy of the graduation -- that is SO how I feel!! And even though we're the ones deciding when graduation is, we were certainly in the classes with you all! I, too, can't wait for the reunion parties. And thanks for being here, Jo. We learned so much from you and Odin. xo

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    2. Jo I loved how you said it was a graduation. Jo you are such a special person and I hope our paths cross again. We will be back for a reunion or two, you can count on that.

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    3. Irony of ironies? This post came on the first day of Odin's 2nd semester. *giggle*

      And, my piece of good news ~ two weeks ago, I started on a one year contract as an administrative assistant at a funeral home. The learning curve is steep (and I'm still struggling at times), but I'm quite enjoying it.

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  4. Would it be spooky or annoying if I said I knew this was gonna happen today? I had a premonition today about this and when I red my soul was like "I told you so". I has so much to write but I'm still in the car and couldnt wait 'til I I get home to say this. I'm not sad in a way because eventually everything changes. And changes to bring out something even better. This blog has been so dear to me and its leaving me with two very cherished friendships with you two and new connections and promising friendships with so many from our the blog family. I wanna soo much but right now I leave you with this. I will miss the blog but I know this is gonna be a beginning of something even more beautiful and that this blog has made us all wiser, happier and better in soo many ways. I love this blog and I love you all. Thanks xo (more later....)

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    1. You know, Shalaka, I actually had a feeling many many people here would know, or have a feeling. I feel like we've all been so connected here that, in a way, the subconscious message that was brewing would indeed make its way to you all. Thank you so much for being here every day with your positivity and enthusiasm. You made this place a happier one! xo

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    2. I agree with Barb, that I did not think it would be a shock to some. Not surprised that one of them was you Shakaka. We will look forward to that virtual gift coming our way. You have been that gift to us Shalaka with your boundless energy and your positive outlook on life!

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    3. You girls are just soooo kind! <3 I'm gonna miss these convos. So much.

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  5. Hey my dear friends...I don't know you've done it to date, in that you've been so committed to getting this blog right and making sure you have rewarded the trust of your readers, so I am certain the decision to back away must be bittersweet. But I can't tell you how excited I am for you both for, as you have illustrated for so many on here,the possibility is virtually infinite. You just sometimes have to clear a space for it. I wish you both much success with whatever comes next. Obviously, I'll be cheering you on wildly, pumping my fist in the air with glee and shouting, "WOO!WOO!WOO!" with each new development. With love and gratitude, Annette

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    1. It's only now in retrospect that I wonder what would have happened if we'd just posted once a week or every now and then as many bloggers do. But I guess, certainly speaking for myself, that I am an "all or nothing" kind of person and don't think I could have done this blogging thing any other way. But as you say, Annette, now it's time to clear some space and be free for the next. Thank you so much for your support and your many intelligent, astute, and hilarious contributions over the years. A dear friend in real life, you've been a dear friend here too. xo

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    2. Thanks so much Annette. You have helped us in so many ways as you know. You are so right Annette and we are the same-all or nothing. We have happily given our all to this for as long as we could. I would never want to give it the short shrift and so it is with that in mind that we leave it. I love your last sentence. I am crying. Colin could back me up on that. He just said to me as the tears are flowing again, "come on, MAN UP!"

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  6. P.S. I've got a surprise virtual farewell gift for y'all will send to Barb asap so you can post it here xo

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  7. Wow - I'm really going to miss checking the blog to see what you two lovely ladies had to say each day. I too, wondered how on earth you found the time for this commitment but am thankful that you did. Thank you for all your work and for all the sincerity you've put into this venture. You will both definitely be missed by many but everyone wants the best for you both! That's just how well liked you are! Look forward to hearing how you're doing from time to time. Thank you and my best to you!!

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    1. And, boy, did we enjoy getting to know you, Lana. As one of the newer comment-posters, I feel like there's so much more we could have said to each other here on topics far and wide. Your Christmas shots still make me laugh to think about! Thanks for being here, and thanks for your wishes! xo

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    2. Thank you so much Lana. We will look forward to checking in on all of you from time to time. We're going to miss you too Lana, we just started getting to know you!

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  8. always hard and bittersweet to take that next step, and accept change. Having had the honor to read some of your fiction, Barbara, I must say I am personally excited at the thought you will pour more of your energy there. Still, I have gained much insight and many laughs here, and even when I don't comment, I have been reading. And I was especially proud to be part of a silly, joyful threesome.
    Alas, you've done your thing here, and done it well. Now, onward!

    xox gae

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    1. Thank you, Gae! In fact, it's one of my disappointments that I could never get that video from our 3-way to post to our videos page (and, of course, have also since lost the discipline to post further videos!). That was so much fun, and another example of the blog stretching us in ways we never expected to stretch. You've been such a positive influence, both on-screen and off, that I have to give another kiss to you, dear Gae! xo

      And for anyone reading this, check out Gae's amazing fiction (bookmarked in our sidebar).

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    2. Thank you Gae, you were one of our first wonderful followers and we were in awe of your talent. We are so proud that you hung in with us. Your presence and support was always felt.

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  9. also, the two of you are utterly beautiful and adorable, and embody humor and grace. <3

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    1. Thank you so much Gae. I am just cry cry crying this morning.

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    2. well, i wasn't that emotional this morning. now, checking back here: yep, crying. :) Deb, where else will i "see" you if not here?! <3

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  10. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This was the most wonderful blog.
    I wish you both all all the best in the future. As the lovely Doris Day sang...Que Sera, sera. Such is life.

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    1. Darling Heidi, did you know that Doris is one of Deb's icons? So lovely that you would sing us off with that. And I feel so so lucky that we met you and that you graced us with your hilarious, honest and thoughtful comments here. xo

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    2. Just when my tears dried up your brought up Doris!!!! :-) Thank you Heidi so much.

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  11. Oh, and what Gae and Annette said. That was really what I was thinking.

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  12. Oh, brother. I was just gettin' started with you two. Best of luck!

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    1. So sorry James!!!!!!!! Please feel free this week to ask us anything you might be interested in knowing! We are going to spend the week answering questions!

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    2. I know, Jim!! And you had always had such interesting and rich comments. Ah well, FB it is...

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    3. this whole ask you anything has me thinking that I can "use you both" (er) to make up for the fact that I cheaped out and got a $0.99 iphone 4 and not 4S and now don't have Siri.

      Hmmm. Barb and Deb, what good restaurants do you recommend in NYC, and can you please send a reminder to my husband? ;)

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    4. gae polisner, you cheeky brat, thanks for the end-of-the day-laugh! Siri has nuthin on us.

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  13. I for one did not expect this and it hit me hard. I found this blog just as I had lost my job and was plunged into the unknown. I found so much here, strength, faith and most importantly new friendships. I hope at the very least we can continue those. I will miss this blog so much but I wish you all the very best. I hope that we can have reunions here and there and I ferverently hope I will get to see you Barb and Deb this summer when I experiene my first visit to Canada. Thank you seems so lame so I'm enclosing a song that says what I need to say. Crying now so I will say thank you both for being there for us, much love to you both!XOXOXO

    Please watch and listen carefully to the words of the song, my gift to you both!
    http://youtu.be/AIp0uM2xFVU

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    1. In case the link doesn't work go to Youtube and put in Cindy Campo Beautiful Soul!

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    2. Mary I am so sorry this has hit you hard. We have loved our time here so much. Because I don't get "notified" on email, I cannot open this but Barb is coming over this morning to do our last blogging out loud and I will open it on her computer. I know that the blog was there for you at a time when you needed it and I think that is a great thing, isn't it? We will have reunions Mary we will!

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    3. Yes Deb indeed has been great I found you both just when I needed you. I have been so thankful for your friendships that I hope we'll continue. I only wish you both the best always and congratulate you on this next step. Looking forward to the reunions! XO

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    4. Darling Mary, thank you for this. The song is just so lovely. Really a gift. Yes, we will have blog reunions, and of course if you come to Toronto we'll have to do lunch! I feel like we really watched you shift this last year, Mary, and now, even though a lot of it is still difficult, you're in school and just growing and growing! You are a really really dear and special and beautiful soul. May it get more and more wonderful for you. xo

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    5. Mary, another positive from the board that you got is ME!!! LOL I finally get an upstate NY show buddy! Now if only the guys would schedule a show somewhere in upstate NY again, we'd be all set. :)

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  14. I've been so amazed at how much time you've put into this. You blog every day and you respond to most every comment. That takes a lot of time. We have felt your love. I have felt your love. Thank you for your years of inspiration and support. Best of luck to you in your pursuit of projects, family, life and everything. I still say we need to have a big girls get together weekend sometime. Hopefully that can come about one day - a big Middle Ages blog reunion!

    With all my love.
    Molly

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    1. Molly this is so lovely. So very lovely. Having a bit of a rough time of it this morning and your uplifting words mean a lot. Hell yes we will have a Middle Ages Reunion. I know we will feel it when the time is right! Wishing you all good things Molly. And feel free to ask questions this week.

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    2. Yes, yes to reunions! And, wow, Molly, you have never ceased to amaze me. I hope your confidence keeps growing as you see yourself for the amazing, uplifting, intelligent and loving person you are. You have so enriched our lives here and my hope is that you know that truly truly. (spread the wealth, don't hold back). xo

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  15. Deb and Barbara,
    You two have helped me through some very difficult times over the last year or so since I found this blog and I am so very thankful. You have been support when I needed it. I am going to miss these conversations very much, but I am glad to hear that you have some very interesting and big things to move on to.
    Thank you for being kind, loving, considerate, compassionate, caring, funny, intelligent, thoughtful people. It means so very much.
    I love you both very much! xoxo

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    1. Dearest Steph, where would we have been this blog without your pithy Shakespearean quotes or interesting insights or kind, sensitive and strong words of wisdom??? We love you too and hope everything comes to you! xo

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  16. Steph I would say to you "thank YOU for the exact same things!" We love you and will miss you. Please feel free to ask any questions this week. We are doing a question palooza!

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    1. Deb stop crying! Then the rest of us will well up and there will be virtual snot clogging up our collective keyboards! What a spectacular legacy you leave to us . A wiling ness to be unafraid to be honest and forthright in our opinions and to open our hearts and minds to the world around us. Onward and upward! Love Eve!

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    2. Eve my darling how lovely...do we have to worry about the fact that it will soon be "the middle ages" starring EVE? ;-)

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    3. Virtual snot.... Hmmmm...

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  17. This blog has distracted me from sad times, kept me company when I've been lonely, and has given me a lot of inspiration and wisdom. Thankyou for all the hours you've both put into it, you'll probably never know how much your words have meant to people.
    This week is a bit of a graduation from one period of life to the next for me too- my 4 year old has his first day of school, and I'll get to meet the baby that i've been growing for the last 41 weeks. I wish all the readers here on the blog the best for the future and hope its a period of exciting change and happiness for everyone!
    I really look forward to buying your novel/ hearing about your next projects. And if either of you ever travel to my side of the world it would be lovely to meet you and show you the sights! :) xo

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    1. Oh, Samara!! Baby baby baby. Please let us know when you have him/her and all the best! We are thinking of you!! And sooo interesting that there are such major transitions in so many people's lives right now. My friend just told me it's the Chinese Year of the Snake coming up: a time to slough off the old and go forth in the new. I think you're a symbol of that in the most literal way. So loved meeting you here, looking forward to hearing (and seeing ;) ) all your news! xo

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    2. Samara how exciting. Yes please let us know! Sending wishes for a beautiful healthy baby! And first day of school for your first baby. Wow changes a plenty. We would be honoured to meet you if we ever get to your corner. Thinking of you!

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  18. Like a great TV show picking a time to stop when you are on top before the possibility of becoming too repetitive - you leave us wanting more. I -like others- have enjoyed this blog for a whole pile of reasons. I have envied your energy of keeping this going and wondered at times when you would set it free.

    Your announcement brought to mind how many years ago I would buy that Martha Stewart's magazine and be amazed cover to cover at all the information. After a few years - I moved on in part because that is what we do in life and in part cause after a few years it all seemed a bit repetitive. When she started her TV show -hey I became all mesmerized again! (and yes I just admitted to paying attention to Martha Stewart!)

    Yours was the first blog that I felt comfortable enough to actually comment on - so I won't forget it. And Deb I say you in a play at Ryerson when we were both in our teens (At least that's the age I am using!) So I am sure our paths will cross again in your next ventures.

    As a knitter I would say that you have both added a bunch of rows to my life's scarf - and I thank you for that. Judging from the comments here - you have made an impact on others - and that is more than any of us can hope for in our time.

    Best of luck and warm wishes to you both as you move write your next chapter whatever that is.

    Dorothy

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    1. I wish we'd had more time here together, Dorothy. Already you've become a great voice in our convos. Your analogy about knowing when to go is pretty apropos, as we thought we'd just go on forever and then realized, hey, wait, that's a pretty tall order! Who knows where we'll pop up next and what we'll be doing. And so it is for all of you! Thank you xo

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    2. Dorothy what a wonderful comment. What the heck did you see me in at Ryerson? I love that. "
      As a knitter I would say that you have both added a bunch of rows to my life's scarf - and I thank you for that. I LOVE THAT COMMENT. Two things. I too love Martha Stewart and I am sure our paths will cross again. Not Martha's! Yours and mine.

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  19. I guess I would have to agree that I sensed this was coming. Your blog has been such a blessing to me and I quite selfishly wish the credits weren't rolling already. I get it, though. I would often shake my head, from side-to-side, with mouth agape, for thirty seconds at a time, in awe of all your devotion to this blog. It has really been a wonderful journey and such a gift to so many of us. Oh geez. I can't see the monitor anymore, my eyes are leaking...

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    1. I know, me too!! It's been a very leaky morning/day!! It has been the most wonderful journey. I never thought if would end. Thanks for being here, Eileen. You always gave us such great and honest comments. Without you... xo

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    2. Thanks Eileen, we have always loved your comments and your lovely energy. And I am glad you understand. That means so much that people are understanding. And don't start crying, you'll start me again!

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    3. ...Oh here we go again....*starts crying*

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  20. I've enjoyed getting to know you so much over these past few months. I'll miss your wit and wisdom and the community you've built here, but I'm excited for you, too, as you begin your new adventures. Best wishes!

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    1. Thank you, fadedginger!! Another wonderful later addition to our blog family. Thanks for adding your sassy voice here. Keep it up and we'll see you out there! xo

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    2. Thank you fadedginger, you have no idea how hard it was to come to this. But the support from people like you is meaning the world. We will miss you.

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  21. Dear Blog,

    HEY! I haven't really spoken to you before. But, I always loved you....you know that. Its been sooo wonderful knowing you. Thanks for coming in both of my sweet friends' lives in form of an idea. You've given them sooo much. You've given us all so much. You helped me go through the biggest breakthrough I ever went through in my life. You helped me meet two of the most wonderful, sweet and beautiful girls Ive ever met. You gave me 4 inspirations to paint.
    You helped me grow, you refined my focusing. And you gave us all a very easy thing to feel happy about or feel comforted by. You've made sucha a difference in our lives in soooo many ways. I dont know how to thank you enough for the transformation you helped me go through.

    Thank You for existing. And Farewell, I know from the depth of my heart that this is not an end but a beginning of something new and even better. You're gifts will stay with us forever and we'll love and remember you ALWAYS.
    Thanks for being the reason for these wonderful connections, dear blog.
    I LOVE YOU! xoxoxo
    Shalaka.

    P.S. Thanks for taking in my LOOOOOOOOONG comments, my weirdness and my Nerdy Doctor Who and Harry Potter metaphors without any complaints.... You're just like my girls here. Wonderful and loving!

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    1. Well, on behalf of Blog, I humbly accept your words with love and appreciation. A blog's gotta do what a blog's gotta do ;) love you back, The Middle Ages

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    2. Shalaka the blog is more than touched. It knows you love it and it loves you right back. BLog is going fishing. And as it's waiting on the dock for a bite, it will think of Dr. Who. xoxoxo

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  22. I haven't been very active the past weeks....months...but this is just sad. I didn't "sense" anything, because I'm a person, who hates changes, and hates, when the things I love, are coming to an end.

    I wish I could say something more intelligent or wise...


    but I just sit here, crying my eyes out. I've loved being a "part" of this family. And now it breaks my heart.
    Love you, and thank you so much for everything you did for me (and that was a lot). I will miss this.

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    1. Oh sweet wonderful Becki! I hate that this is so hard for you. I hope you know that we have the most hopeful and loving faith in you. It's not always easy to see the best in ourselves, and we've watched you struggle with that, but please please know that we see all that is best and wonderful in you and you must be kind to yourself and nurture that deep, intentioned, thought-full, curious and loving core that is you, and you will shine shine shine. love xo

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    2. You're just soooo amazing and wonderful. xoxoxoxo

      Im really grateful! =)

      Thank you so much.

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    3. Becki it was for exactly this reason that we were so conflicted. It was because of how much we adore you guys. Becki you have always been one of the most interesting gals to us. I love loved your energy and your comments. It's been a peek into the lives of another generation with you gals. We will miss you. xo

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  23. Okay...I'm thinking about two things right now
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mSQyW_FUu8

    and..THIS....
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMsr-fWGvKM

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  24. Deb and Barb,
    Bittersweet. I so enjoyed our blogship. I feel like my friends are moving away. Not gone, but just not so easy to drop in on for a cup of tea. Thank you. It has been a great journey with you. Always provocative. And stimulating. Intellectual or emotional. I wish you both the best on your next adventure. I will miss our cups of tea. xoxoxo

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    1. Denny, perfect analogy! And I think that's why it IS hard for us. Because you were absolutely our cup-of-tea companions and we will surely surely miss it too. Thank you so much for being here and for this. xo

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    2. It is a perfect analogy Denny. Perfect. I will miss these cups of tea too. And it is so bittersweet as you say. It is the most bittersweetest thing I have done in a long time. Barb and I really struggled with this one. Thanks for the lovely wishes.

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  25. Oh wow...this is sad. Feels like saying goodbye to an old friend.

    I remember that summer in May of 2011 when I was sitting in a ridiculously tiny dorm room about to leave for England in the next month when I came across this. I spent the entire afternoon, started from the very beginning, read post after post after post...I was so inspired. I never stopped being inspired.

    While I will TERRIBLY miss checking this blog daily, I also must admire your decisions. Life does go on beyond the ether and I know that the two of you will continue to inspire countless others, like you've done for so many of us. I really hope that these next chapters in your life bring new beginnings and journeys to both of you!

    And for all of you faithful followers, my sister and I are still going forth on our joint blog about well...everything. Deb and Barb, we do hope you will still continue to read when you are able. You both are amazing! <3

    thehandkchronicles.blogspot.com

    <3<3<3 ((((hugs)))

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    1. Oh, you bring up such a great point: many of the blog buddies have their own blogs and of course we will be checking in there to catch up with you and we hope you will check in with each other. Holly and Kelly's blog is so adorable. And interesting! Check it out. And, yes, you ain't heard the last of us, baby!

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    2. Holly I adore your description of first finding the blog. So excited for your new blog. How wonderful. We will tune it for sure. Thanks for the lovely sentiment.

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  26. "life is like a hot iron, ready to pour. choose the mold and life will burn it."
    (from the Mahabharata)

    Dearest Barb & Deb--you have chosen this blog form as a way to mold yourselves into who you are on your way to being. It was a stopping point, an intention, a dream that allowed you to look in the mirror and see the world looking back, a mirror that allowed you to reflect & refract your own light. Now life has burned the mold as a way to remind you not to be fooled that the construct is the answer. I wish you the fire of continued intentions, and inspiration, the wisdom to recognize it, and the patience to sit with everything else. A big thank you for being part of my first "threeway" and for being who you are in my life. May each word of response you get from everyone unfold a thousand blessings, and may you have the wisdom not to attach yourself to any of them.
    with great love & admiration, Lori

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    1. it occurs to me as I re-read this, that there is more than one way to interpret that saying. It COULD mean that with your choices, you mold your future, that whatever your actions are is what the imprint of your life will become. either way, it's applicable, don't you think? xo

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    2. Lori, you have had such a profound impact on my life (as I hope you know), thank you so very much for also sharing your wisdom and insight and divine light with others here on the blog. This, as always always always, is wondrous. xo

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    3. Dearest Barb--YOU are wondrous. that's why you see that around you. Big love & support xo

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    4. Lori I was gobsmacked by your comment. I have read it twice. It is a huge reminder as to why we did this blog in the first place and I totally understood what I think was your first intent. "I wish you the fire of continued intentions, and inspiration, the wisdom to recognize it, and the patience to sit with everything else. " LOved that sentence. In fact as I just read the whole thing again, I am moved and wiser but everything you said. Thank you so much Lori.

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    5. Deb--I am so honored by your comment (and Barb's). and so struck that someone used the word "gobsmacked" in relation to my artwork yesterday. I'm gobsmacked at that synchronicity. I feel very glad that my experience (and the way I filter it) speaks to you and Barb, and hope you know that it's (been) (and will continue to be) a two-way street. in fact, I believe that when our paths cross, it is synchronicity that makes us pay attention to what's happening on the other side of the border of the flesh, makes us notice that we're not the only ones having the feelings we do, and drives us to connect & share the wisdom..........I really look forward to watching both you and Barb to witness your continued unfolding.........

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  27. I have been rather a wallflower to this blog, rarely daring to post, and even then usually with anonymity.

    But I never missed a day. Your words/thoughts/ideas always struck a chord and they have stayed with me.

    I have learned a lot about myself whilst reading your blogs, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You made a difference.

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    1. Dear Allyson, thank you so much for this. Funnily, before blogging, I was always most comfortable reading anonymously. That is maybe the biggest shift I can see in myself "on the other side" of these 3 years. Even though you may not have weighed in many times, we felt you here and it meant (means) so much to us. Thank you xo

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    2. Allyson Barb is right. You did not need to post often to have your presence felt. I am glad something of what we have said has stuck with you. I sincerely hope it was the positive stuff and not that time I ran after a little boy on the road screaming at him. :-) You all made a difference to us too. More than I think any of you will ever know.

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  28. Mrs. Deb and Mrs. Barb
    This is a very bittersweet moment as I sit here and read your post. I however know that change is a good thing. This journey I believe will be good for all of us. When I was reading your post two things came to mind; a song and also a bible verse. The song: Friends Never Say Goodbye by Elton John. Bible Verse; Ecclesiastes 3:15 "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven" I hope you journey may bring you back one day but if not you will always know that you have the full support of all the bloggers.
    Mrs. Deb,
    I am always thinking about you and your family. I pray that your parents have a full healing. I also pray for your strength for you and Colin. Enjoy your new journeys and cant wait to see what you do.
    Mrs. Barb,
    I am always thinking about you and your family. I hope that you all are safe I am always praying that you all stay safe in whatever you guys do. I hope you have a great journey and hope to see you back when time permits.
    I LOVE YOU BOTH SO MUCH!!!!!!!

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    1. Thank you, Tara!! Loving you back!!! You are another friend who has come later rather than earlier, but look at the impact you've made on us in so little time. Keep sending the love round and round and to yourself. xo

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    3. Tara we love you and we thank you for that beautiful comment. Thank you for your prayers and good wishes and you are right. Our season just became winter and in the beauty of that season, we can see spring. Thanks so much Tara and good luck to you in all that you do.

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  29. :-(
    Thank you Deb. Thank you Barbara. Thank you family of commenters.
    I wish I had hours to sit here and properly think of the right words. I'm glad that you guys have got bigger and better things to move on to in life. I'm terribly sad to lose this, but better things will have to come. I've grown here. You've taught me to be more confident in my thinking and to trust that you guys would always be there to catch me if I fell.
    I owe you all more than just a thank you but for now Thank You will have to do. You all left an impression in my life that I couldn't have done without.
    Best wishes.
    Thanks again Deb and Barara <3

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    1. You, darling Kelly, have also left a huge impression! Thank you so much for coming here every day and leaving us with so much food for thought, and gentle, kind and sweet comments. I hope we didn't give the impression that we're leaving for "better" things -- just "different" ones. Only to change. xo

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    2. Oh Kelly you know we love you. Your comments have always meant so much to us and we are glad that anything we have said here might have helped. I don't know what we are moving on to honestly. We just felt it was time to clear the table so we could set a new meal. Don't know what we're serving but it will be tasty. The impression we left is mutual.

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  30. Ah well, all good things must come to an end eventually. And this was a 'Good Thing'! I've really enjoyed your thought provoking questions and the responses members gave. I have even enjoyed responding on occassion. I will miss you all.

    Barb and Deb, you did a good thing here and I will bet you have plenty more good things and ideas up your sleeves and look forward to hearing about them.

    Be Well, be Happy.

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    1. Thank you, fran! You may not have come all the time, but you certainly weighed in with some beauties. Love your voice and your way of seeing things. We will surely see you out there again, we look forward to hearing what you're up to! xo

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    2. Fran I have loved that this blog has reconnected us! Love it truly. Your comments were always smart and warm and you have given us a window into your lovely life. I remember your comments about purging and how tough it is when it is a loved one's belongings. It really stuck with me and is helping me exactly right now. Please stay in touch.

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  31. WOW, this was a shock to me this morning. I thought you would just go on and on but, I realize that life does move forward and I feel privileged to have gotten to know you both. I will always remember your sweetness and our real meeting in Toronto. I consider us friends and will still keep you on my feed and if you ever do post something I will get it. I will definitely miss your thoughts and wisdom and the fun we all had together on this blog site. I also was thrilled to be on a three way with you all too. What a fun adventure we all have gone on. Best of everything to you both and your families and your lives. Please do check in from time to time so I will know all is well. Love to you Barb and you Deb for the past years of intimate adventures and all the love put forth on your blog.

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    1. It truly wouldn't have been the same without you, Madge! You were always here to root us on and give us fascinating thoughts to chew on. Thank you so so much for that. We will check in, for sure, and we hope you'll join us when we do! xo

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    2. Madge Barb is so right! You were almost our official Mascot. Except pretty, not with a bear head! You have been truthful and open always. You constantly gave us something to chew on and to think about and we thank you so much. We will check in, we promise!

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  32. I'm in awe at reading all of the interesting, compassionate, humorous and enlightening posts. I was going to respond to Deb and Barb that even though I haven't posted a lot, I have been reading, quietly and enjoying the contents of this blog for quite some time. I'm not the type that has something to say about everything!!! haha I'm gathering that many others have done the same based on the new names that I'm seeing today. Quite heartwarming I must say. : )

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    1. I know, Lana! I couldn't agree more!!

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    2. Lana you are far from the only one who reads but doesn't comment and you know, we have felt the presence of all of you, reading and supporting us. And yes it is quite heartwarming isn't it?

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  33. Dear Barb and Deb,
    Somehow I'm not surprised, saddened yes but not surprised. I've wondered if something has been brewing for awhile and I guess this was it. I’ve been exploring the blogging world for a little over two years now and your blog from the first time I saw it has always been my favorite. It’s been the one I went to first and the one which never failed to bring something positive to my day.
    I want to say thank you, these simple words are not enough to truly encompass and express all of my gratitude and my feelings of thanks I have towards both of you but they are all I have. You have both given me so much more than I can explain.
    Even when I haven't commented I've been here reading, laughing, sometimes crying but always enjoying each and every post and comment. The last few years I have faced some of the most difficult periods I can recall ever having faced and having this place of peace and love during that time has made it easier.
    Knowing the next few years won't unfortunately be getting any easier I'm incredibly grateful for what you have given me over the last couple of years not only because it helped me to get through those times but because what you have given me will carry on and help me to see through whatever else is to come.
    You have given me confidence when my own faded, strength when my own faltered, determination when things got hard, brightened my outlook when things were dim, and gave me inspiration where I often found none. You have helped me to learn about myself and even come to love the person I am and to find a self-confidence that has never been more than a well-contrived act.
    You have made a real and lasting difference in my life, you really have. Thank you, I will dearly miss having you as a part of my days.
    I wish you all the best in your future endeavors and nothing but success, health, and happiness for you and yours.

    Love and hugs,
    Erin

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    1. Dear dear Erin, you are so special and it breaks my heart that times have been tough (which we knew) and will continue to be for a while (which just sucks), but you are so amazing and kind and thoughtful and talented that I can only imagine where you will go and grow to. Can't wait to see it. Of course, I'm glad that we might have played some part in that, but remember we were only growing as you are and we will all keep doing so -- if we want to. Yes, I want to! Thanks for being here with us! love and hugs xo

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    2. Erin comments like this make us know that this blog was meant to be. WE have all learned so much from each other. I hope these tough times for you clear up earlier than you expected and if anything we said helped any part of your struggle I hope you can continue to call on it. Also Erin you are stronger than you know. You should see you from this side. You would be impressed. Good luck with everything.

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  34. I'm so honoured to have been given the opportunity to read this blog, meet this blog, and learn as much I did.

    I know just what Mary means when she says "thank you" seems lame. It does seem lame, and yet those are the only words English can offer me so I will use them:

    Thank You. Thank You to you Deborah, and you Barbara, for leading an incredible community. An ideal community where everyone is safe to be as strong and as afraid as they need to, because we always knew you would be there to accept us as we are.

    Thank You to the community. I consider 'meeting' you one of the greatest things I was gifted by Life. This has been kindred; this has helped keep my faith in humane-ness alive.This mattered.

    I'm so happy for you both! I am so happy for whatever it is that DOES come next! Whatever that 'Next' is for you each respectively, it is damn lucky to be getting you on board. I admit I was caught off guard and couldn't help some crying, which just goes to show what an incredible achievement you ladies have accomplished here. I forget who said it (the outpouring of comments makes it difficult to re-find)but one of you said "I'm glad this is hard". And it is. I'm glad too :)

    I will miss coming here, but I will cherish taking it with me.

    so. much. love.

    Souz

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    1. (As soon as I pressed 'enter', panic set in and I wanted to take it all back and just scream "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO DON'T LEAVE ME GAHHHHHHHHHH"
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    2. A laugh and a cry at the same time -- well done, Souz!! You did say it in perfect words and I wish I could just say the same thing, adding more to it, over and over, until maybe maybe my words will match my feelings. You'll just have to trust that the feelings are amazingly full of love and wonder at -- like you said -- the "human-ness" of this. Thank you for your everything! love xo

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    3. Souzan I was so moved by your comment that the eyes were welling up again and then I read the second one and I burst out laughing. Thank you for that and thank you for you, whom we were lucky enough to meet. YOu have not seen the last of us.

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    4. I couldn't handle it if I had seen the last of you two. Seriously. You know, I always say nothing commemorates the start of a new beginning like a celebratory vacation to somewhere overcast and raining! Wink, wink, nudge, nudge...
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  35. Does this mean you're not posting anymore after this week or is it just on a temporary hiatus?

    Regardless, I will definitely miss reading about what you all are up to. However, I understand that sometimes these things do have to happen. Deb, PLEASE let us know when Colin and Brad are back in the Kentucky area so we can go see them again! Barb, hug your daughters extra tight and tell them you love them; and good luck with your writing or whatever else your endeavors will leave you!

    Don't be strangers though :] I'll miss reading this blog so much! It's been a wonderful network of support that has really helped me get through nursing school because we are all just so real with each other! And that is so very important! So thank you for that! :] Blessings and peace!

    Cheers!

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    1. Kelly, let me start by saying that the world is getting a great great nurse in its future, full of love and kindness and awareness. We are so lucky to have you! Thank you for being here every day with Holly. As for your question: right now we're not looking at coming back to blog regularly, but coming back in from time to time to chat or catch up. But at this point, we are open to everything/anything! xo

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  36. Thank you for your wonderful blog, witty remarks and a shoulder to lean on. For me this blog has meant more than I have given credit before. Thanks to you I changed my plans, chose the path to unknown. The change I described in earlier post is all thanks to you two and this open environment. I used to randomly read blogs and rarely post anything. I was captivated by your blog. I wasn't able to not read it. I saw myself writing and commenting on subjects. I even tried not commenting so often, but I wasn't able to do so. I was sold. While reading your blog (literally) I decided to change my path.

    I was not surprised by today's post. I am not sorry either. I admit that when I read this I smiled and thought of releaf (?) as I have like the others have mentioned as well been worried about your time management. You have given so much, so you deserve to have the time to focus on other things. Life is a big adventure :) Yes you say that you also received something from us as well, but you still have poured your soul daily into this and now it has other priorities. Go focus on them. We understand and deeply thank you Debra and Barbara for continuing this long.

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    1. Kasku, you amaze me every day with your utterly singular and strong and still open thoughts. You are a true inspiration. I can't tell you how much this comment means to me. It is beyond lovely and perfect. Thank you. And I so want to know where your changes take you! Off on our adventures, baby! xo

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    2. You are most welcome. I have my contact week with my school this week, so I haven't been able to comment much. Just decided to give some new info, as in previous post I mentioned I am waiting at the moment. Well my wait is over, I got my visa and have now bought tickets. I will be doing my 20th move in the end of next month. :)) I will read the comments more thoroughly during the weekend when I don't have to work and study at the same time. (And hopefully this flu that I just got yesterday will be gone)

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    3. Congrats on the visa!!!! And truly, now an adventure begins. Amazing and wonderful. Good luck with all of that, especially the 20th move!

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  37. I want to thank you both for your blog. Even though I only contributed a couple of times, I really enjoyed my morning reads. I was always so happy when one of you responded to my comments. Living so far away from home, (Canada) your blog helped make me feel connected. All the best to you both.

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    1. And even though you only contributed a few times, they were important comments and we are so glad and grateful you shared. Thanks for your wishes - and best of luck in your new and faraway home! xo

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  38. Well, color me oblivious because, like Mary, I did NOT see this coming.

    Um.

    Well, you two have accomplished something a lot of people I know wish had happened earlier: You've left me.

    Seriously.

    Okay, let's start with this. The song is by Marc Cohn (he of the "Walking in Memphis" piano genius).

    **
    ONE SAFE PLACE

    How many roads you’ve traveled
    How many dreams you’ve chased
    Across sand and sky and gravel
    Looking for one safe place

    Will you make a smoother landing
    When you break your fall from grace
    Into the arms of understanding
    Looking for one safe place

    Oh, life is trial by fire
    And love’s the sweetest taste
    And I pray it lifts us higher
    To one safe place

    How many roads we’ve traveled
    How many dreams we’ve chased
    Across sand and sky and gravel
    Looking for one safe place
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    Ladies, thank you for providing a safe place for all of us. For inviting us to listen in on your thoughts and comment on them. For allowing us to share our views and thoughts, even if they sometimes wandered a bit off-topic at times. For developing a safe place, and, on a more personal note, offering your support, comfort, respect, and friendship to me. The freedom, the smile or tear, the sigh of relief this blog has provided me... the effect is bigger, more encompassing, and more appreciated than I can sufficiently convey.

    oxoxoxox,
    Dawn

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    1. SPEECHLESS!! SPEECHLESS!! YOU'VE LEFT ME SPEECHLESS!!!!!

      Award-winning edit fail.

      Well, that really kills a mood, doesn't it.

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    2. Okay, this actually made me cry -- until I read your addendum!!! Thanks for that!! Because we have so not left you. You are a wondrous friend and soul who has shared so much of her difficult journey here. I can't help but tip my hat to you, knowing how many lives you've made better through the process of sharing (parts of) your own story. Absolutely xoxo And in reference to your comment below about FB -- yes, of course!! It's a key way to stay in touch. Thanks for this, Dawn xo

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    3. I was horrified when I saw how I'd left that sentence. My mood's been crappy on occasion, but I would NEVER accuse anyone so dear to me, and I to them, of doing that. See, I have gotten better! Love you! ox

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  39. I was going to say good luck and best wishes and all that. I wish you that all the time, plus the strength to deal with whatever comes along. I like to think, though, that perhaps we'll be able to update each other occasionally. Facebook gets a bad rap sometimes, but it can be used for good, too. :)

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    1. Dawn what Barbara said is so true. You have helped so many people on this blog with your honesty and I know that it was often difficult for you to share. We love you so much Dawn and are so grateful that the blog allowed us to get to know you and to meet you which was an absolute highlight. Yes we will totally stay in touch on FB. I am counting on it. Until then, thanks for your comments and your dry wit and full open heart. Thanks mostly for your honestly, always telling the truth. And thanks for letting me knew the true meaning of khaki's. xo

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    2. You guys will hear me yelling/laughing in a couple of weeks, anyway... Feb 9th and 23rd, apecifically. I finally get to see your husband and Brad again! Show times again!

      PS. If one of your channels starts showing a "reality" show called 'Southie Rules,' take it with a grain of salt or three. It's a bit of an exaggeration, nay, stereotype, shall we say. :)

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  40. Aww, I'll miss you ladies and your posts, but change is good and I wish you all the best in the future projects that you can use your newfound freedom and flexibility to pursue. I really enjoyed your words, your thoughts and ideas, your kindness, and the glimpse into your lives that this blog illustrated so well. I also loved the community you built here - you have a gift for bringing people together and making them comfortable being open and positive, a skill which is valuable no matter what you choose to do.

    I'm going to miss you and the community you've built. If anybody wants to visit me at my blog, please do. It's just a few months old and barely anybody comments yet. http://inlatinamerica.wordpress.com

    Thank you both for the writing I've enjoyed since I started following. Deb, you always seem so put together, with your amazingly beautifully decorated house and fashion sense, and I admire that because it's something I'm not and don't think I ever will be, and yet you are approachable and kind in all you do. Barb, I love how empathetic you are. Your kind words and thoughtful, caring responses to people's comments go the extra mile to bring a sense of community to this blog. (And as I write this, I feel as if I should mention that each describes the other as well.) I'll miss you, but I'm excited for your next adventure!
    Question:
    I haven't seen any of either of your work in the world besides this blog. Any other stuff you've done that you're particularly pleased with, besides your amazing families?
    Question 2:
    Any blogs or writers you follow in your spare time? Or, other community members, what else do you read online?
    Question 3:
    I'm going to miss this active and supportive community. Is it weird to ask if anybody wants to be friends on Facebook? I am hwatkiss (at) gmail (dot) com. That goes for you, Deb and Barb, and for any of the community members who came here.
    Thanks!

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    1. Great questions, Hannah! Thanks for playing. First, though, I do want to acknowledge your beautiful blog. Such delicious writing and such a great overview of traveling to a far-off land and having the adventure of a lifetime. Check it out, everyone! (don't be discouraged by few comments, I think we are more of an anomaly here -- I think most people enjoy reading and not commenting).

      Okay, 1. I have been in many TV shows and a few films, shot here in Toronto. Some of my TV shows, I am very very proud of, but sadly, they never lasted long. My biggest "claim to fame" is that for many years I voiced one of the characters in a kids' animated TV show called Sailor Moon (I'm Sailor Neptune). That work was incredibly challenging and interesting. As for my writing, stay tuned for that. Yes, I love it.
      2. We used to read every post from the bloggers in our side-bar, but true confession: as our workload increased, reading was sacrificed to writing (ask anyone: we used to comment ALL THE TIME). It's something I hope to get back to in quiet moments coming up.
      3. Several of the blog readers also became friends on FB, so I don't think it's weird (rather warms the old cockles actually!). You can find me there if you want. Thanks for the email! And keep in touch! xo

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    2. Searching for you on FB right now Hannah. Can't wait to connect!

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    3. Oh, I'm getting in on the FB love...

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    4. Apparently some people had trouble finding me on Facebook. This is me! http://www.facebook.com/hannah.watkiss.1 - There ya go!

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  41. Hannah I would love to be your FB friend. In fact I hope that many here will seek us out on FB. My answer to question 2 is the same as Barb. I was never great at checking out other blogs. I would go there and LOVE so many of them but my life did not offer me the time to follow through. Regards my other work. I am an actor/comedian who has done lots of TV the most recent long job on a show called Little Mosque on the Prairie but I have had a long career in radio doing for example the voice of Winners for three years and many other products. I have worked extensively in animation doing everything from Beetlejuice to seven little monsters to Bearnstein Bears and the list goes on. I work on stage too with a sketch troupe Women Fully Clothed and with the National theatre of the world. I also do lots of charity gigs with my husband, hosting and improvising. 22 years ago I had a really fun show called My Talk Show in LA that I did 65 episodes of and also co-created. My husband and I created, wrote and starred in a CBC show Getting Along Famously which you can find clips of online. It was the project of our hearts. Always happy in acting but happier writing at this point. Who knows what is coming next. Thanks for asking the questions Hannah.

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    1. I really want to watch Getting Along Famously - I read your blog posts about it and I would love to see it! I haven't found it yet, though.
      And I friend requested you!

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    2. Hannah it used to be around on youtube. I thought it sill was. I'll look. Yay for friend request!

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    3. I admit I haven't tried YouTube because I haven't had internet access fast enough to watch a video yet. I've been looking for downloadable versions so I can download it over a few days and watch it at leisure, repeatedly. The challenges of technology and travel, I tell you!
      But on the bright side, when I can watch videos online, I'll get to catch up on all the blogging out loud videos I still haven't seen, which is all of them. I'm glad travel is amazing, because it has some disadvantages.

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    4. Hannah you are able to get Getting Along Famously on DVD on Canadian Amazon ( Amazon.ca i think) a Canadian cousin of a friend of mine got it for me but it was a while ago . http://www.amazon.ca/Getting-Along-Famously/dp/B000HDR832/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1359574205&sr=8-4
      get it if you can it is hilarious .

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  42. Hey guys! If any of you wanna join me on Facebook heres the link to my wall!
    http://www.facebook.com/shalaka.kalyanpur


    And....Ive got a few questions for you girls

    1. I really wanna know what inspired the idea of this beautiful blog.
    2. Your FIVE FAVOURITE THINGS ;) from the blog.....Well.. You can mention more than five. Coz lets face it.... five is not enough for this!
    3. Some things that you are extremely thankful for (relating the blog ofcourse)
    4. Anything you two would love to do in the future, in terms of writing? And Please dont be realistic!! Anything from learning in hogwarts to taking a Moon-tour in the TARDIS will do. Lets VISUALIZE!!!
    5 And....WHEN ARE THE REUNIONS???? Most importantly....When ARE we skyping again????? nope...never gonna stop asking that question :P

    I am gonna miss the blog. It will het me hard next monday when I'll sit in front of the computer at 6:45pm waiting for the new post when I'll realize there isnt gonna be one. I spent all morning crying!!! But I'm fine now because we ARE gonna keep in touch!! Through emails, FB and soon, in a couple of months we can even MEET personally. So I know it IS a new beginning. And I can feel it. Something WONDERFUL is on the brink of manifesting. Lets just allow the future to enthral us! xoxoxo

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    1. Great questions, Shalaka! Hopefully I can do them justice in these few minutes...
      Okay, 1: We were encouraged by a friend to write the blog. The thought had never occurred to us before. Strangely, the idea just ignited and felt so RIGHT.
      2. 5 fave things: You guys; the fact that so many of you were willing to be honest here and share your experiences; that we are a community and not just 2 people talking; that I learned so much about writing; that Deb and I only grew as friends and that it didn't ever pull us apart.
      3. All the above.
      4. Oh yes: all the novels and screenplays that are in my future are grand. But can't talk about them until they are done :)
      5. Impossible to say. For the first time in my life, I don't want to make promises or "write the script" for the future. It wouldn't be an adventure if I knew all the plot points, would it? What I want is the creative equivalent of backpacking through Central America (as Hannah is doing). No responsibilities, no ties, just freedom and wonder. This, of course, can and might and probably will change. But right now.......

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    2. LOVE LOVE LOOOOOOOVE the answers!!! And Awww the last one made me feel AMAZING!!!! Because... I WAS expecting something like that!!! <3

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    3. Aww, that's such a great answer. Thanks Barb! That's why I can't make any comments about wishing you would keep blogging - freedom and wonder are sometimes more important than making your friends happy.

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    4. Still hoping (and assuming) when all is said and done, Hannah, that I will somehow do both :)

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    5. Hi guys, as you can see I am having to pick up the questions and comments when I can. There is a lot of pressure in my life right now and it's nice when I can read the lovely things being said. Okay my answers are going to sound cheesy because for a few of them it will simply be "what Barb said!" Yes a friend and biz associate encouraged us to blog and she helped us get started. We fell in love with it. Fave things from the blog. I remember being awed and humbled by the discussion that ensued on Mental health, I loved when everyone sent the holiday wishes and we placed them on our tree and wreath. I loved each and every time someone new joined the party and we got to know them. I loved when conversations started between readers around a subject and loved watching them help each other. I loved the support each person would offer when someone on the blog was hurting. I loved that it took on it's own energy and that we weren't in those moments, directing it. I have specific plans for the future regards writing but like Barb I don't want to say details until it's done because if it is as creative a journey as I hope it will be, I do not know at this point what twists and turns it will take me on. I can say that one of my projects is a childrens book based on one aspect of my childhood. Reunions are in the future but Barb's answer says it all. I am not even going to be able to kick back at all till probably the spring, so although the blog has stopped, my life is stressful and crazy. I do see the end of the tunnel though and it is sweet.

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    6. Don't worry about having to check in late to the comments, Deb. If it feels like an obligation, rather than a chat with friends, it's not nearly as pleasurable.

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    7. Aww Thanks for the wonderful Answer Deb!! Dont worry about the late reply.... and I know what you mean....lets just "LET IT BE" the future I mean. Lets allow the best and revel in the deliciousness universe brings for us!!!! xoxo

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  43. Hannah you HAVE to watch Little Mosque. You'll get the links on Youtube.
    Deb I never mentioned... YOU WERE AWESOME!!!!!!!! And I ADORED Sheila too!!
    everytime I watched an episode I looked around and bragged "You see that funny, sexy Mayor, yeah.....she's my friend" Given nobody was in the room but I'm sure if my apartment could talk it would say "OHHH GOSH Shalaka talks about you....ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!" xoxoxo

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    1. I have tried to find Little Mosque but obviously it's hard to get in South America. And I don't want to download it since it's Deb's work I'd be stealing. Shalaka you're so sweet. I friend requested you on Facebook.

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    2. Thanks Hannah! I was just gonna say....Coz I couldnt find you.

      I know!! I can understand unfortunately thats how I got Gaf online. There was no other way!! But thank god I found Little Mosque on Youtube! Already felt bad.

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    3. Too bad about Little Mosque. I thought it was so available as it is in 98 countries. Too bad Hannah. Maybe in the future. In the first few seasons I am spotty in it but the last few seasons I am in every show so it was a nice build for me. But GAF was the show of my heart. Our darling friend Paul whom we lost suddenly in the spring plays my wonderful and hilarious assistant Beverly.

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    4. Shout out to GAF! Such an adorable witty show! I fell in love immediately.

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    5. ME TOO!! And yes!! Paul was AMAZING! You must really miss him! xo

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  44. Oh...I stumbled over a quote today...thought it fits. :)

    "There will come a time when you believe everything is finished; that will be the beginning."

    Louis L'Amour

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    1. Oh wow, how PERFECT is that?! Thank youuuuuu, Becki.

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    2. That is SUCH a great quote!! I am adding it to my kitchen's quote wall!!

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    3. Becki that quote is a keeper, thank you. Not only applies to what is happening regards the blog but to everything in our lives, doesn't it? Thanks so much.

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  45. I'm glad the topic of facebook came up, because I would really enjoy having that connection alive with other members of the community here who would want it in return.
    You can find me here with this link: https://www.facebook.com/souzan.rezai
    (If you can add a message that says MIDDLE AGES that would be great, as many of us don't have faces here, lol :)


    It's true, I think Shalaka said it where it's going to hit hard next Monday. Me too, but in a great way. I went out to dinner last night with my girlfriends and told them that my Blog Lady Friends (you're title amongst my set, ladies...which they know well because a lot of gushing occurred prior to our meeting, and then never stopped post...) had come to the decision to end their blog. I told them that it feels a little like a graduation. There is that sense of bittersweetness over top of kinetic energy and excitement! And possibilities! I feel like we have all suddenly graduated, and I am so proud! I wish we could pop a bottle of champagne as a group, but in lieu of that, I hereby promise to buy a bottle of simulation 'sparkling wine' (cause I'm unemployed, and if I said actual champagne it would be... a lie.) and raise a toast to you, Deb, and you Barb. Then the rest of the bottle I will toast to us all.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lYmJ1Smfbk

    I would like to share here my own baby website. For those of you who don't know, I am an artist. I do mixed-media paintings and am in the processing of getting my work off the ground (hopefully on to other people's walls!)
    If you would like to see my work, I would be honoured.
    You can find me at www.tsbarthouse.com (it's also linked to my name here, so if you click on my name it will redirect you to my site)


    It is barely a week old, my site, but and feedback you could give would be so appreciated.

    so much love,
    Souz

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    1. Oh, how I loved the cap toss video! Like balloons in the wind. And thanks for linking to your art page. So deserves a visit, everyone!

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  46. I don't know what to say. I should probably say what everyone else is: that I'm grateful you were here for this long, and thanks and whatnot. But I can't. Right now all I can do is be very upset. Mostly because I'm horrible with change, and I'm having to deal with an awful lot of it right now. Perhaps after a few days it wont seem so bad, but right now it seems like the end of the world...

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    1. April, I know what you mean. The timing sucks, doesn't it. I wish you peace and strength. {{{HUGS}}}

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    2. Darling April, I am so sorry this is hard for you. I wish I could make it better. But I do believe that our energy is now linked and we will use the impetus of that to carry us forward. We have the blog, we always will, and the stories here can help and surprise us over and over when we need them to. Kind of like a good book you can pick up over and over to read your favourite parts. I send you hugs and best best wishes that you can face what is yours to face. You are such an amazing person who has warmed my heart and taught me much over the years. love and thanks xo

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    3. Oh April I am so sorry you feel badly. So very sorry. Try if you can, and you too Dawn to focus on the great time we have had and the sharing we have done. I am sorry the timing was bad for you guys. If it makes you feel any better, and I mean this sincerely, the timing was so right for us. I know that matters to you. xo

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  47. Well, I might as well chime in also. I've enjoyed these blogs immensely although I've never commented on any of them (perpetual lurker). I will miss them. Thanks

    Thomas Alexander

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    1. Thanks so much for coming out of lurkitude to say hello (goodbye?), Thomas! Makes a difference to know you were here. xo

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    2. Thomas we have many lurkers. Nothing wrong with a lurk. Glad you enjoyed them and glad that you popped in to say goodbye. We wish you well. Thanks.

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  48. Ladies, another thing I forgot: Thank you SO SO SO much for asking me to substitute for you once on this blog. SUCH a HUGE honor from WRITERS!! KNOWN people!!! I died with pride. LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! oxoxoxoxo

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    1. Are you kidding?! It was a pleasure and an honour to have you here! You are a writer, a thinker, a wit, a gem. Thank YOU!!

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  49. Dawn I could not have said it better than Barb did. You are all those things and more! We loved having you. I can't tell you how many times Barbara and I would be talking and say "wow did you read Dawn's comment today?" We love your brain and your sweet self.

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    1. I agree with the girls!! You're AWESOME Dawn!! I had soo much fun reading that post myself xo

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  50. Dear Deb and Barb, this has been quite a week. As usual i read all the comment in the morning as is part of my ritual and I am astounded at the strength, kindness and love that is/was in this blog. I feel so lucky to have stumbled upon it two years ago. You are forever in my heart and that's where you will always be.......xo Jo

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    1. It is still hitting me very strongly. All the reach-outs and connections here are so amazing. Like Deb said in her answer above, that is one of the most amazing results of this blog - is the sense of community. We, of course, will always be grateful that the blog brought us closer, Jo. xo

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    2. Oh Yes I agree. The bittersweet of this decision is still going strong. But the support is beyond what I might have imagined. And I knew it would be great!

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  51. Kelly and I would love to be Fb friends with you lovely ladies! Just say The Middle Ages sent ya! :)

    https://www.facebook.com/Holly.A.Korb

    https://www.facebook.com/kelly.is.jelly?fref=ts

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    1. And you guys can contact us too!

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    2. Yes please ladies! Would love to have you on FB!

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  52. Forgot to say.....THANKS THANKS THANKS....for posting my paintings here and supporting me soo much!! I love you girls! xoxo

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  53. A song for the stressful times girls! <3 <3 <3

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RdopMqrftXs

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  54. I too, can't say how honoured I was that you ladies shared my post as a three-way. I really can't think of a better word than 'honoured'. Thank you, it meant so much!

    The facebook finding has been so great, as the week progresses I find myself feeling a bit more anxious at the thought of losing my 'comfy safe place', but as I add more friends to my 'Blog Ladies' list, I feel more calm. Just knowing that there is a method of somehow contacting you guys in SOME way, makes it so much better.

    xo xo

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    1. I was just saying to someone that the really difficult part about moving away from the community is that it is rare and difficult to find a place where you can really openly explore your innermost thoughts and have people really hear them and then really and honestly weigh in. With very very few exceptions, everyone here contributed in a truly loving unique-to-them way and we will all feel the change of that. But, as we're saying, we're also certain it will benefit so many other things around us, a butterfly effect, in the times to come. xo

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  55. just want to say thank you for this amazing blog .it sad to see you go but i can understand the times moves on and things no matter how good have to change .
    it has been a great place to come and read and talk to some really nice people . you have also been great in giving me a safe place to talk about my parents illnesses .
    also thank to Colin Mochrie for posting links to this blog on his twitter feed , i would'nt have found this blog without them ! .
    so take care . i hope we will meet somewhere again.
    cheers!

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    1. Linda, I sooo want to thank you for sharing your journey with your parents (and many other adventures) here on the blog, sharing your pics and your struggles and successes. You've been such an inspiration to us and to so many others. Please please keep in touch and take care and give yourself lots of love from us and for your parents. You've made my experience here richer and better. xo

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    2. Linda we are so grateful to Colin for the part of the community he connected us to. So happy that you were one of them and glad that we could all share with you a safe place to share your feelings, good and bad. Thanks Linda so much.

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    3. Yay!!! Thanks Colin!!!!!!! <3

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  56. THE PRESENT IS DONE!!!!!! But its really late so I'll email you girls in the morning. So dont forget to check your inbox first thing tomorrow. Only after you've watched it that I'll upload it on fb and well, if you want you can upload them here too.

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  57. [I just HAD to share:
    I was about to go to bed for the night, and it's been such a long day thaat I thought it was Thursday night alread annnd...I let out a squeak of panic. That only the cat was there to hear.
    -- I bet ten a dozen cookies I am not the only person this happened to. ;) ]

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  58. Hey girls...I was thinking....since most of us are connecting on FB. How about we make a Group? Of all of us???
    You dont have to do anything I'll take care of it. What do you think?

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    1. hey shalaka good idea . i am very short of time right now to send you a link but look for Linda southern Dublin Ireland with the same manchester united avatar that i have on this page

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    2. Hey Linda, cant find you! How about sending me a request here:
      http://www.facebook.com/shalaka.kalyanpur

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